So I have two very old friends who I asked to be bridesmaids. When I first asked them they were excited about being in the wedding, but they have not contacted me first at all since I asked them, shown any interest in the wedding or any interest in my life in general. They also are not attending the bachelorette party, and I know they're not obligated to come, but they don't seem to care about it period. Every time I try to hang out with them it's a struggle to get them to show up, and they never initiate contact or ask me to hang out with them. I try to text/call them fairly regularly and support them in their lives, but it is not reciprocated.
I don't expect them to do much for me except show up on the big day, but it would be nice to have some support/hear from them. It also hurts extra because both of them were in weddings earlier this year and catered hand and foot to their other brides going above and beyond what they should, and yet they don't seem to care at all about mine.
I'm just feeling very disappointed and like they don't value my friendship. Personally I would want to be there at least as moral support for any friend who asked me to be a bridesmaid and any friend in general if they were getting married.
Any other brides having this issue? And how are you coping/what did you do?