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candyqueen137candyqueen137 member
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Is it rude to ask my best friend to be a maid in my wedding if she is my brothers ex? 
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  • bethsmilesbethsmiles member
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    Nope. If she is close to you then you should ask her.


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  • misssunshine17misssunshine17 member
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    No. Bridal Party members should be your nearest & dearest, not people you 'have' to include. If you're close, go for it. Do you think your brother would take issue? 
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  • southernbelle0915southernbelle0915 mod
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    Your wedding isn't until April 2015. I would not ask anyone to be in your wedding party until next spring/summer. Hopefully by then their break-up is less fresh and it'll be less of an issue.
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  • GlassButtonGlassButton member
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    edited August 2013
    candyqueen137 said:

    Is it rude to ask my best friend to be a maid in my wedding if she is my brothers ex? 

    If you're close to her then go for it. Just check with your brother if want to make sure it won't get messy with him.

    As a PP mentioned, be sure not to ask too early. A lot of things can happen in two years. Ask her until it gets close to the time when you need them to purchase their dresses. (About a month before).

    ETA: about a month before they need to purchase their dress.
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  • misssunshine17misssunshine17 member
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    If your wedding really is April 2015, it is way, way, way too early to be thinking about this. Wait until July 2014. 
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  • candyqueen137candyqueen137 member
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    They have been broken up for years. I asked him and he said that he "can't promise he wont try to kick her ass" my brother is 26 and still acts like a child. I'm to the point where I want the people closest to me to be there to share it. My brother is no where near close to me. We dont even have a relationship really. Its just a hard decision. 
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  • KeptInStitchesKeptInStitches member
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    I'd wait a couple of years just to be sure you're still really good friends, but otherwise go ahead and ask her. Your brother's immaturity is on him, not her fault, and definitely not your fault.
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  • GlassButtonGlassButton member
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    candyqueen137 said:

    They have been broken up for years. I asked him and he said that he "can't promise he wont try to kick her ass" my brother is 26 and still acts like a child. I'm to the point where I want the people closest to me to be there to share it. My brother is no where near close to me. We dont even have a relationship really. Its just a hard decision. 

    In this case, do it. If your brother was a mature person that you had a close relationship with then things would be different. Just keep in mind not to ask her too soon.
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  • vk2204vk2204 member
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    candyqueen137 said:
    They have been broken up for years. I asked him and he said that he "can't promise he wont try to kick her ass" my brother is 26 and still acts like a child. I'm to the point where I want the people closest to me to be there to share it. My brother is no where near close to me. We dont even have a relationship really. Its just a hard decision. 

    Ask your friend but wait until 9 months before your wedding. Don't ask your brother if you aren't close with him.
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  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    Give it some time-ask about 6 to 8 months before your wedding. 

    But it shouldn't be up to your brother who is or isn't in your wedding party-especially if you two are not close.
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  • LavenderHoneyBeeLavenderHoneyBee member
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    candyqueen137 said:
    They have been broken up for years. I asked him and he said that he "can't promise he wont try to kick her ass" my brother is 26 and still acts like a child. I'm to the point where I want the people closest to me to be there to share it. My brother is no where near close to me. We dont even have a relationship really. Its just a hard decision. 
    Please make sure to tell your brother that threatening violence against anyone, but especially a friend of yours is never okay. 
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