We are having a small wedding (only 40 guest, immediate family). My fiances sister has a boy and a girl. My sister (who is also my MOH) has two boys. I thought that it was a good compromise if his niece is the flower girl and my oldest nephew is our ring bearer. We told our family, including her, about this when we first got engaged and then posted it on our website just to remind everyone.
Well, now my future SIL wants to know what the boys in the wedding party (groom, best man, & ring bearer) will be wearing so she can dress his son the same way in "case my nephew gets nervous about walking down the aisle and her son can walk with him to make him feel comfortable" (even though they have never met). I find this so terribly annoying. Why would she put me in this position of becoming the big bad "B" when, I think, we have already made it clear who will be in the wedding party. Am I exaggerating? or is she in the wrong?