Several MOB/MOG dresses

Re: Several MOB/MOG dresses

• forensicgirla member

  

  August 2013

  *figuring out all of this on my own

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• southernbelle0915 mod

  

  August 2013

  forensicgirla said:

  I know what tradition dictates in situations involving the MOB/MOG dresses. However, after multiple marriages, we are left with literally 5 SETS of parents/step-parent and remarried but still in our lives step-parent/spouse. This is not to mention the 4 sets of grandparents! 

  
  

   I feel so lucky to have such a large family and want to do a special nod to them in our ceremony by having my cousin (marrying us) do some version of who blesses this marriage, having all parents stand to say we do. That sounds like a very nice, inclusive idea.

  
  

  That being said, who do I invite to wear lavender (parents wedding color)? Nobody - as adults they are invited to wear whatever color they want. If they want to wear lavender, they will. Do I ask each set of parents to incorporate lavender in their dress or just the MOB/MOG? No - do not dictate anything about their outfits. They can dress themselves. I feel like that may feel bad for all the step parents, especially since my father's passing, because my step dad is walking me down the aisle. 

  
  

  I'm starting to see cross eyed figuring ask of this out on my own lol!

  This is one less thing for you to worry about. It's against etiquette to dictate anything about their outfits of "invite" them to wear a certain color. Let them figure out what to wear on their own and cross it off your list of worries. 

  
  

  If you want to give a nod to your parents' wedding colors, have your florist work lavender ribbon or flowers into certain people's corsages/boutonnieres. No one has to know why you did it (or feel left out). 

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• forensicgirla member

  

  August 2013

  The corsages are actually a great idea! Even though we still have a year until our wedding, my mother was asking yesterday and I told her I was thinking lavender. My mother and grandmother are growing lavender and sage for our wedding, but I think we will order greenery etc.
  I think I will let her know soon about this idea, as I'm sure after my FI's mother is finished with her own wedding, she will concentrate on mine lol.
  With so many parents, it would take a lot off my plate to do something like this.
  
  Anyone else who has faced this, please let me know what you have done. I love hearing about how other people handle big families.

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• southernbelle0915 mod

  

  August 2013 edited August 2013

  Just one more thought - if people ask you what they should wear (unless they're your BMs), just say "anything you pick out would be nice." A lot of people will ask you out of courtesy, but it's good etiquette for you to just tell them to choose whatever they want. It's bad etiquette to dictate a color, or style, or fabric, etc. 

  
  

  My H's mom asked me about 20 times what she should wear. I explained what the temperature would be like, that we'd be outside, what my mom was wearing, what the BMs were wearing and then told her to pick out anything she felt comfortable wearing in any color she liked. 

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• allispain member

  

  August 2013

  southernbelle0915 said:

  Just one more thought - if people ask you what they should wear (unless they're your BMs), just say "anything you pick out would be nice." A lot of people will ask you out of courtesy, but it's good etiquette for you to just tell them to choose whatever they want. It's bad etiquette to dictate a color, or style, or fabric, etc. 

  
  

  My H's mom asked me about 20 times what she should wear. I explained what the temperature would be like, that we'd be outside, what my mom was wearing, what the BMs were wearing and then told her to pick out anything she felt comfortable wearing in any color she liked. 

  I second this. MIL asked me what she should wear for the wedding and I let her know it was an outdoors ceremony and that my mom would be wearing blue. She got worried, saying she was thinking blue as well but maybe she shouldn't. I told her that I thought blue would look lovely on her if that's what she wanted to wear and that she shouldn't worry for a second about whether or not it would "go" with my mom's dress. They both looked stunning and very different shades of blue/styles of dress.

  
  

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• misssunshine17 member

  

  August 2013

  Don't pick out adults clothing and certainly don't specify a color, unless they are your BM. It makes you micromanage and that's not a good look on a bride. Let them wear what they feel good in. 

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• Bookie7 member

  

  August 2013

  I agree with everyone else, they should pick their own outfits.  You have enough to worry about.  Only bridesmaids and groomsmen should be told what they're wearing to your wedding.

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