October 2013 Weddings

Invites to the shower...

So, I'm trying to get together the shower list to give to MOH.

It's going to be a "Ladies Only" shower (I think my MOH said it'd be a "Pamper the Bride" shower).

Now, FI has a friend who I kinda-sorta know as she lives the next street over from us, she'll come over and take care of the dogs while we're out of town, and she and her family are invited to the wedding.

But, she's not one of my close friends.

Do I invite her?

And, FI has a sister who lives about an hour and a half from us; I've -never- met her.  He's only met her once or twice in his life (sister through his father, and he grew up not knowing either of his siblings).  Do I invite her?

Or, I guess to distill this question;
Do you invite women from "his" side of the guest list to the shower or just my friends from "my" side of the guest list?

Re: Invites to the shower...

  • I included my FI's female relatives on my shower list, such as his aunts and cousins. It would probably be nice to extend the invite to your neighbor and his sister. They have the option to decline if they think they would feel awkward not really knowing anyone but you. My dilemma was including the wives of my FI's groomsmen. I have met a couple of them once or twice so I decided against it since if we invited a couple of them we should invite them all, including some I haven't met yet.
  • I'm having two showers -- one hosted by FI's family and one hosted by friends of my mom's (who are of course invited to the wedding). Other than my mother, there's no overlap in the guest list. One was all FI's family, the other is all my friends/family.

    It would be nice to invite them, but you don't have to. Ask your FI what he'd like!
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    I'm gonna go with 'not my circus, not my monkeys.'
  • I only invited a few of FI's relatives, now I'm second guessing that!!!  I agree with archerstar that it would be nice to send an invite and they can choose to accept or decline.  Guess I should follow the same rule myself!  LOL
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  • The only person from FI's side of the family that was invited to my shower was his mom. 
  • My shower was mainly my FI's family. Luckily I like all of them, lol. When I did my list I included all of my family and my friends, and FI's aunts and grandmother. Did none of his cousins as that would be 11 more invites and FMIL said no. 
  • I didn't include female friends of FI's that I don't hang out with without him.  There's a few of his old friends that I get along great with, but I'm not friends with them outside of FI.
  • Only my FMIL & FSIL's were invited from my FI's side. This was partially my decision and partially his moms (based on their culture & family showers are kind of seen as gift grabby no matter what). It was nice to have his mom and sisters there though.

    I never would have invited his female friends (not that he has any) and I did not invite all the women invited to the wedding.
  • I had a large shower, and basically all local women were invited, from both sides.  I would say to include them - they can decline the invitation if they don't feel they know you all that way. I often err on the side of including people rather than not including.
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  • If you are only having one shower, I would invite people from both "sides." They are giving presents for the both of you, not just you (unless it's a lingerie party. Although, technically that is for both of you...but you get what I mean).
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  • I invited his family but I'm nervous since I have yet to meet some of his aunts.  In our families both sides tend to do showers together.  His mother better help me though introductions... 
  • I spoke to FI about who he wanted invited. He asked that I invite his godmother and his late mom's close friend. I asked my bridesmaids to include a little note in their invitation. As for some of FI's female friends invited to the wedding - I didn't include them on the list.
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