Paperless Post/Save the Date Emails

Re: Paperless Post/Save the Date Emails

• kwlodarski

  

  August 2013

  Also, should I get some paper save the dates as well?  I'm unsure about the older family members and email. Unless phone calls are also considered OK for save the dates?

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• LDubHawksFan member

  

  August 2013

  kwlodarski said:

  Also, should I get some paper save the dates as well?  I'm unsure about the older family members and email. Unless phone calls are also considered OK for save the dates?

  I personally don't like the idea of electronic stationary for weddings. I think there are very economic options for both items (I.e. vistaprint). Not only is it a little more formal, you will avoid some not receiving it in the spam box and you will need those addresses for your invitations anyway. Also since you have been engaged for a week, just make sure you only send stds to those you are for sure you can host. Std=invitation, so if your budget changes or costs creep up, you can't cut the guest list later if you send them to everyone. We did family, closest friends and for sure invited OOT guests, and were glad we had the ability to make our wedding more intimate by not inviting others that we thought we would 6 months earlier when we were doing stds.
  If you do email stds, yes get at least a few for the older generation. My grandma can't even turn on a computer!
  
  Good luck and congrats!

  
  

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• MayDay513 member

  

  August 2013

  kwlodarski said:

  Hi all!

  I have been engaged only one week, but have always heard about the knot and couldn't wait to see all the great advice.  I've been reading articles/checking community boards and I believe I have a decent handle on the save the dates.  It seems that save the dates are OK to send via email.  We're planning on a wedding on a budget, and I'd much rather put money towards the reception than invitations where possible.  My question is the best method to getting everyone's email?  When I imagine my guest list, I think I have or could easily find (via mutual friends/family) addresses for everyone.  I would have NO idea on most people's emails since I keep in contact via FB or the phone.  Is there a better way to ask everyone for their email?  I'm worried people will see the request and either not reply (b/c why do you need it?) or scoff immediately if I explain it's for a save the date.  Just wondering if anyone else has run into this and how they asked their invitees for emails the best way.

  Save the dates aren't essential and not necessary. I would cut the expense if you are on a budget. I would say skip the email. I would honestly say, those who need to know you can tell ahead of time. But if most people are in town then you shouldn't have a problem.
  Honestly, that sounds like a lot of work for something that is not essential. I say use that energy to gather addresses for actual invitations. I have heard of texting, facebooking, asking in person etc.
  

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• MayDay513 member

  

  August 2013

  kwlodarski said:

  Also, should I get some paper save the dates as well?  I'm unsure about the older family members and email. Unless phone calls are also considered OK for save the dates?

  Skip it. Save that money to go towards invites and mailing invites, if you are on a budget.
  

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• OliveOilsMom member

  

  August 2013

  Skip the STDs.  Just spread the date by word of mouth.  If your looking to keep your invitation budget low, then look into Vistaprint.  You can upgrade your paper and envelopes and they have some very nice invitation designs.  They also frequently have groupons available where you can save some money buy using multiple groupons.
  
  Congrats on your engagement and welcome to the boards!
  

  

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• WinstonsGirl member

  

  August 2013

  We did "STD's" via e-mail, mainly to our VIP's, just so they had the date and could look into flights if they were planning on coming (DW).  But STD's aren't necessary, especially if you don't have a lot of out of town people, or is you are not going away to get married.  

  
  

  I would recommend paper STD's for some people though.  And if you can't get their e-mail, no worries.  You can still send an invite when the time comes, even if you haven't sent them an STD.  STD = invite, so we didn't send them to everyone.  A few people on our original list didn't get an invite, since we didn't really talk to them anymore, and since they hadn't received a STD, it was no problem to not invite them.  

  
  

  For everyone else, we just spread by word of mouth rather than sending something official (ie. my Granny).  Good luck with planning

  
  

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• kwlodarski

  

  August 2013

  Thank you all for the advice and the congratulations!

  I'm still in a mental whirlwind about the engagement and when I look at my ring I first think how beautiful...and then overwhelmingly remember all the planning that comes with weddings!  Definitely using the knot for future advice and to narrow down future vendors. 

  I think I may skip save the dates.  I'll just make sure to give enough time for the formal invitations before the big day!

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• drummerbonbon member

  

  August 2013 edited August 2013

  kwlodarski said:

  Thank you all for the advice and the congratulations!

  I'm still in a mental whirlwind about the engagement and when I look at my ring I first think how beautiful...and then overwhelmingly remember all the planning that comes with weddings!  Definitely using the knot for future advice and to narrow down future vendors. 

  I think I may skip save the dates.  I'll just make sure to give enough time for the formal invitations before the big day!

  I would skip STDs. When FI and I were first engaged, a lot of our friends asked when the wedding was. They didn't do it as in invite-grabbing move; they were just genuinely interested in when we were getting married. Because we didn't send STDs, we also weren't trapped into sending people invitations who we suddenly realized we didn't want there. Because they didn't receive an STD, they weren't expecting invitations. 

  
  

  By the time it's ready to mail invitations, a lot of people on your guest list might already know when the date is just through talking to you, your FI, or your families.
  

  
  

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• MayDay513 member

  

  August 2013

  kwlodarski said:

  Thank you all for the advice and the congratulations!

  I'm still in a mental whirlwind about the engagement and when I look at my ring I first think how beautiful...and then overwhelmingly remember all the planning that comes with weddings!  Definitely using the knot for future advice and to narrow down future vendors. 

  I think I may skip save the dates.  I'll just make sure to give enough time for the formal invitations before the big day!

  Don't forget you don't send out STDs until you actually have booked and secured a venue.
  

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