so my fiance and I have been engaged for almost 6 years and we are now getting around to actually planning the wedding. We've been talking about it for years and both have always really wanted to do a beach wedding which is just so...us. My husband grew up on the beach and I'm trying to get him to move there now!! We live in NJ and have been looking to have our wedding in FL. Our reasoning is that we wouldn't need to be restricted to potential hurricane season like we would in NJ. The times out of these months in NJ just leave us subject to completely unpredictable weather (as we realize having an outdoor wedding has its downsides anyways). Also, my fiance's family is from out of the country with airfare infinitely cheaper than flying to NJ. It would be a fantastic midpoint.
Now for my family's opinion: my grandmother and great aunt have said they will refuse to go to ANY beach wedding. This really upsets me and just completely bums me out. I'd be happy to explore more venues closer to our home but I just have been dreaming about this beach wedding for as long as I can remember. Has anyone ever had to deal with any of this? We are just in the process of beginning to plan out wedding. I'd be so sad if my grandma doesn't come but I feel like she's making this all about her. She simply just doesn't want to go to a beach wedding. I feel like even my own mother is being a bit meh about it all. It's like they all forget I'm marrying a foreign man and we aren't the only family involved.
If I just went ahead and planned my wedding in FL (half the country away for my family but a cheaper alternative for my fiance's and a midpoint at that) is that just rude of me? It's driving me nuts. I want to make the best of everything but just don't want to give up all that I want especially my dream wedding to please everyone (an impossible task). Any advice?