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"SPECIAL" Bridesmaid...

(Sorry this is kinda long) I've been pretty easy going with my bridesmaids as far as what they can wear in the wedding.  I chose the color of the dress and told them to pick the style they liked best for them.  I still maintained veto power in case someone tastes completely clashed.  They were all aware of this.  We all went to David's Bridal together and they tried on dresses and ultimately they all chose a different dress. 

One bridesmaid who has killer legs chose a short dress, which i'm perfectly fine with, it looks good on her.  Another bridesmaid wanted a short dress also and liked the short dress the other bridesmade chose. The problem with that is that she doesn't have the shape for that type of dress.  She has a really large azz (the shelf ass) and thick legs.  The dress didn't look that good on her because the pleats on the back puckered out.  I told her she could not get that dress.  I approved of another short dress she liked and told her she could get that one instead.  Another reason she wanted a short dress was because she was in a wedding last year that had a long dress and wanted to be different this time (the fact that it's my wedding isn't different enough apparently)

Anyway... She finally decided on a long dress that looked very elegant and lovely on her.  Okay, dresses are ordered and everyone is happy with their choices... Until two days later she calls me and says she's thinking of switching her dress to a short one.  I said fine, as long as it's not the ONE dress I told you you can't wear.  I still have to approve the new choice. Okay she says, two more days later she tells me she decided to stick with the long dress and not switch it. 

Three weeks ago David's Bridal tells her her dress is in and to come pick it up in 10 days. She did not pick it up within the time period so she paid the shipping charge and they put it in the mail to her. She texted me last night and said, I got my dress but I think they gave me someone elses dress. They sent her the short dress she wanted from the beginning and in her size!  How's that for a lucky coincidence?? 

Was she expecting me to say, well since it's your size and you wanted that to begin with just keep it. Uh no, If David's truly made a "mistake", they will correct it and send you the correct dress.  She has one week to clear this up or she can sit as a guest or not in the dress SHE wanted so badly that she's tryna play me for a fool.

Really??? P. S.  I will be calling the Bridal shop myself and find out the real deal.

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  • marsm4 OK First i gotta laugh at this one that is tooo funny... Who does she think she is? Shes basically trying to be slick and im sure if you look back with davids she called them and changed that dress when she initially told you that she was thinking about changing it but decided to cover it up with calling you back and saying dont worry about it ill keep the long dress LOL.... She needs to cut it out... Id definitely have to tell her umm lets call davids TOGETHER and see what happened to the original dress, im sure she will make sure to back peddle and change her story... "UMM NO MA'AM YOU AND YOUR SHORT DRESS WITH YO HIGH BOOTY CAN SIT WITH ALL THE OTHER GUESTS AND WATCH ME GET MARRIED" LOL LOL

    Lilypie - H1jI


    Daisypath - MFL5



  • Git her Killa!!  lol!!

    now Mo you know gut n' tam well that wasn't no accident.  All that remains is whether you finna get her all the way together with a full snatch ("I don't argue about instructions, got plent'y a' other stuff to delegate if you'd still like to be in the wedding in a different capacity") or 1/2 snatch ("guh, you deal with david's but you're not wearing that"), either way please make sure you give her the look so we don't have to do this no more.

     

     

     

     

  • @marsm4, I fear I will have the same problem. I told my ladies that they'll receive a color and they can pick up whatever dress they like. My FI and I have veto, but we're generally lax on their choices. So far, my FI took his best woman to David's Bridal and she felt out of place without the other girls. My lady attendants also want to see what the others are wearing (as if me and my FI won't know who's wearing what). Despite our prior disclaimer that we don't need everyone looking the same, they want all of the ladies together at a bridal shop.

    So, we're going later this month to look at dresses and I pray I won't lose my mind.

    Sunday, May 18, 2014 - Baltimore, Maryland

    "Each time you love, love as deeply as if it were forever" - Audre Lorde

  • Well I talked to David's Bridal.  She did switch the dress, not once but twice.  I'm on 10 pissed right now.  They will switch the dress back for me, however I'm so upset about her lying and deceit i'm not sure I even want her in the wedding anymore... I feel like she had total disregard for 20 years of friendship for something SHE wanted.  This is my wedding right? 
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  • ugh.  full snatch it is.  be gentle mo.
  • That is so trifling. I swear, don't people know their roles in a wedding???

    Sunday, May 18, 2014 - Baltimore, Maryland

    "Each time you love, love as deeply as if it were forever" - Audre Lorde

  • Thats just ridiculous i knew she was lying when u told us what happened... Umm you shouldnt even have her in the wedding at least i wouldnt

    Lilypie - H1jI


    Daisypath - MFL5



  • misstira said:
    marsm4 OK First i gotta laugh at this one that is tooo funny... Who does she think she is? Shes basically trying to be slick and im sure if you look back with davids she called them and changed that dress when she initially told you that she was thinking about changing it but decided to cover it up with calling you back and saying dont worry about it ill keep the long dress LOL.... She needs to cut it out... Id definitely have to tell her umm lets call davids TOGETHER and see what happened to the original dress, im sure she will make sure to back peddle and change her story... "UMM NO MA'AM YOU AND YOUR SHORT DRESS WITH YO HIGH BOOTY CAN SIT WITH ALL THE OTHER GUESTS AND WATCH ME GET MARRIED" LOL LOL

    Tiraaaaaa!  Im thoo with YOU!  LMAO!!!  Not the high booty heffa!
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  • See that's why I can't stand black people.. Jk lol up try to be all nice and then they want to call the shots ... Umm don't she know that davids bridal sends an email with her information and what she ordered to the bride... And did she really think the you were not going to notice the change of dress... You tell that big booty heffa thanks but no thanks have fun sitting in the audience because she is not standing next to you ...I can't wait to see her face when she gets the dress that you switched it back to lol... Side note this is YOUR wedding just to set the record straight

    Daisypath - (PNE7)
  • Now that I know for sure she's lying and trifling I feel so hurt. She's still lying about it. I can't even look at her right now.
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  • Thats ridiculous. I'm with misstira. I knew she was lying ehen u told us the story. Thats why she tried to throw you off by saying she was thinking bout changing her dress. And thats also why she had them send it to her house. I totally understand why you are hurt. One thing I cant stand is when someone lies to me or try to play me like boo boo the fool. At this point i woukd explain to her how I felt and let her know I would rather not have her in the wedding. Obviously she doesnt respect you or your wishes and a real friend would never do that. The nerve of some people smh
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  • sorry i cant do nothing but laugh at her gall....

    smh 
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  • when I read your story.. it made me think out my MOH so I called DB to see if she ordered because she said she did 3 weeks ago.. but of course she didnt...

    Daisypath - (PNE7)
  • @LeciaB, that's a damn shame.  What's with the lying?  As if we can't find out the truth!
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  • Im sitting here trying to think what them 'bishes' in ETIQUETTE would say......they wouldve went in on you talkin bout you need to buy the dress FOR HER and her ONLY DUTY is to be there beside you on NOT YOUR DAY BUT EVERYONE'S DAY.....and maybe you need to see if your wedding day is worth losing A 'FRIEND'.....F**K THAT SHIT.....Kick that lying bish out!! She tried to play yo ass for a fool.....I CANT DEAL.....
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  • Good luck @ minsu5
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  • aquari0216 LOL LOL LOL you already know they wouldve been like how rude is she to demand her friend to buy a dress and how she is going to lose her friend and its not worth it and all that other blah blah blah LOL... I cant take you LOL...tooo funny

    marsm4 How is everything going? Is she still trippin or she realized she eff'd up? LOL

    Lilypie - H1jI


    Daisypath - MFL5



  • @misstira, everything is great, I have a new bridesmaid, someone I wished I had added from the beginning. She's really excited to be standing up for me. As for big booty i wanna look like a hooch in your wedding... Who??
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  • marsm4 LOL girl she needed her butt whooped for pulling that childish stunt... And thank God you were able to get someone else to replace her and thats a blessing that it is all working out for you!!

    Lilypie - H1jI


    Daisypath - MFL5



  • @misstira, The replacement was someone who was going to be an attendant/usher for me, she even ordered a dress from David's.  Her dress hadn't been delivered yet, so they let her exchange it for one in the wedding color! PERFECT :-)
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  • marsm4 SEE HOW GOD WORKS.... That was perfect honey!! You can check that off the list! lol

    Lilypie - H1jI


    Daisypath - MFL5



  • Wow!  One thing I cannot stand is a liar!  I'm glad everything is working out for you @marsm4.
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