This is my first time, so please bear with me. My DF has invited his mother, brother, nephew, AND daughter all down from NY for 2 weeks(yes they are all staying in our house). This is my first time meeting any members of his family. I should also say that I recently moved in with my fiance about a week before they came down, huge mistake. When DF told his mother that he was engaged her response was, " Does she cook and clean?". My fiance is constantly out of town for business and these past 2 weeks have not been an exception. While away we got into an argument about something that he did, not able to fully discuss our issues we left it unresolved for the time being. I admit I was in a very, very bad mood...I cooked and I asked df to take out his mothers food ( I don't know how much she eats, and she is very, very picky). He takes plates out of the cabinet pours himself something to drink and proceeds to sit down. I ask him what he is doing can he serve the food, he says he doesn't understand what I'm talking about he's never done that before -_- and looks to his mother for reassurance. I told him don't bring his mother into this. Flash forward a couple of days later his daughter and I are going out and he asks her if she would like to come. She's laying across the bed saying she doesn't feel well. The next day he spends all day with her trying to cheer her up... and apparently the reason she acted in such a way was because she felt I talk to him disrespectfully, and that it " hurt her heart (-_-) to see that" He told me what she said as soon as they got back and I spoke to her about it. I said that I apologize if I made you feel uncomfortable ( but not about what was going on between me and her son). She proceeds to try to get into a verbal back and forth and I walk away. Now she is saying that she only wants to spend time with her sons and grandchildren when they go out...this is what has me pissed. I have a three year old daughter from a previous relationship who by my df insistence calls him "daddy". My daughter has been spending a lot of her time at my sisters bc of the tension at the house. On Saturday my fiance's mother said " You have the rest of your life to spend with them, I would like to just spend some time with you and my grandchildren" I have had a stance on just letting things go... but my daughter has been feeling alienated, I got pissed off to the point of telling my fiance that my daughter can no longer call him daddy until he acts as such. I want this lady out of my house ... now. I seriously want to throw the baby out with the bath water and leave my fiance bc of this.....I love him... he's the sweetest guy I know but his mother! What am I supposed to do?