FI and I Skyped with his parents yesterday. They have decided to cover the cost of the rehearsal dinner. Which I thought/think that is wonderful of them. Then the discussion turned to FMIL asking me to send her the addresses for the WP and my family. Again, not really thinking of it until later. I'm now afraid that she is thinking of inviting all of their family as well. My concern is that my Matron of Honor's husband and brother are going to be preparing dinner and should FMIL invite their entire family it will be more of a burden on the friends who have been kind enough to volunteer to cook. We would be talking a difference of 20 vs 40!!! FI and I had discussed just doing a simple BBQ for the rehearsal dinner.
I'm not sure how to handle this. Do I put together all the people we wish to have invited, including their side, and tell her that this is the list we compiled to have at that dinner? Do I have another discussion with her and see what her idea for the invite list is?
I really don't want this to turn into the Currier family reunion; I know kind of bridezilla of me, but it isn't our fault that his parents choose to not visit more often than every 5 or so years. FIL's are planning on being here for 3 weeks so that they can visit all of the family. So my feelings are that they will have plenty of time to visit with all of the relatives. UGH!