Grooms preferance

Re: Grooms preferance

• MDbride1012 member

  

  August 2013

  This is my dress
  
  

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• ksblumb member

  

  August 2013 edited August 2013

  There isn't an image or link showing up for me, but I was in the opposite boat. I had always liked the idea of my dad lifting my veil to give me away, but I didn't like any veils when I actually put them on. DH really liked the idea of a veil, but no blusher. I probably would have nixed the veil all together, but it was important to my dad to lift the blusher when giving me away, so I wore a veil only for the ceremony (not for the first look or reception, and we only did 2 posed pictures with it and I dislike both of them because of the veil. Lol.)
  
  ETA: Do what feels right for you, but compromise a little for your FI.

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• allispain member

  

  August 2013

  Perhaps the two of you could compromise a bit. Are you doing a first look? You could wear a veil then, so that he could see you in it while the two of you share a private moment, and then switch to what you had originally planned for the ceremony itself.

  
  

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• itzMS member

  

  August 2013

  It's normal. I think guys dream of their bride much like women dream of being a bride.

  DH actually didn't want me to wear a blusher...he wanted to see my face walking towards him. It was a little thing I could do to make him happy. :-)

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• SBmini member

  

  August 2013 edited August 2013

  It's easy to forget about what our fiance's wants. After all, if  your guy is like mine, he has had zero opinion on all sort of things, like the color of the bridesmaid dresses or what the alter looks like. "What ever you want" or "that sounds nice" are frequent responses. So then, when he does want something, it can throw you off. 

  
  

  My advice- give him what he wants where you can. The wedding is going to be 99% your vision, it is nice to give him that 1% that he cares about. I would wear a veil. You can take it off for some of the photos if you'd like. 

  
  

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• gillespietjg member

  

  August 2013

  I did NOT want to wear a veil.  I was talking about this with my fiance on day and he looked crushed that i didn't want to wear one.  I decided to get one since he felt so strongly about it.  I figure i will wear it for the ceremony and then take it off for the reception.  No blusher though - just can't go there :-)

   

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• heidirs731 member

  

  August 2013

  My fiance wants me to wear a veil too. He originally wanted me to wear it the whole ceremony and then he would lift it at "you may kiss the bride." I did not want to wear the veil that long. It feels way to constrictive. But I told him, in all seriousness, that if he wore it around the house for half an hour without taking it off or complaining, then I'd wear it for the ceremony. My assumption was that he just didn't understand why I didn't want to wear it, and I felt that if he wore it, then he'd understand. And if he still wanted me to wear it after that, then it was only fair that I do the same.

  
  

  The offer is still on the table, but once someone mentioned having my dad lift it when he gives me away, he decided he liked that idea. So I might not be wearing it the whole time, and I'd be very happy about that.

  
  

  I agree with what other posters have said. If it's important to him that you wear a veil, then find some way to do it that will make you both happy. You certainly don't want to crush his dreams, but you don't want to do something you'll hate either.

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• MDbride1012 member

  

  August 2013

    I have agreed to wear a veil for the ceremony and during half of the pictures, but not during the reception. However I got him to compromise and say no blusher. Now we are just trying to find a middle ground on the length. He wants a cathedral length veil, which just won't be conventional for our outdoor wedding. I am hoping for him to agree to something elbow length.

  Also, here is a picture of my gown.

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• erinlin25 member

  

  August 2013

  My husband did not care; I originally did not want one, but my mother insisted, so I compromised to where one but not over my face. so I had a beautiful veil tucked above my hairdo. no blusher.  I ended up loving it and it gave more of a bridal look.  I did not take it off until after dinner/pictures, etc.
  

  
  
  
  

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• ksblumb member

  

  August 2013

  My gown was fit and flare as well and my veil was elbow length. I think that that length best compliments the division mark of the bodice/skirt.
  
  Plus, your dress is really sweet and fun. Cathedral length seems too churchy and serious.

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• tonksandlupin member

  

  August 2013 edited August 2013

  My fiancé is the opposite... he was pretty strongly opposed to the idea of me wearing a veil. He especially doesn't want anything covering my face, because he wants to see me clearly as I walk down the aisle. Plus he has this weird idea that really traditional veils will make me look "like a nun." Silly boys

  At first I didn't care either way, but once I tried on some veils I started really warming up to the idea. So FI and I came to a compromise: I'll wear a veil, but it will be attached in the back at the base of a flower crown, and it won't cover my face. Maybe you can come to a compromise too. Good luck!

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• [Deleted User] member

  

  August 2013

  If it's something he feels strongly about, I would consider it because men typcially don't have much if anything they really want when getting married and if he is actually speaking up about it, it's important to him so I think you should consider it, even if just for the ceremony

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