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Bridesmaid +1 problem

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It looks like one of my bridesmaids will probably be breaking up with her boyfriend before my wedding (which is ~1 month away). She told me (rather than asked) the other day she's planning on bringing a friend who is a girl as her +1 instead. I've only met this friend once or twice in passing.

All of the wedding party got +1s regardless of their relationship status - but at the time the invites went out, 8 of the 10 in the party had significant others. The rest of our wedding guests only got +1s if they were in a long-term relationship.

Am I crazy for not really being OK with her bringing a random girl as her +1? 
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  • Simply FatedSimply Fated member
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    If this girl happened to be a guy, would you be more okay with it? You could try thinking of it like that, if it helps.
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  • KeptInStitchesKeptInStitches member
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    Yeah, you're crazy. Especially since you said all the wedding party got +1s regardless of their relationship status. At that point, once you've given a +1 (or a "and guest"), you can't control what gender that "and guest" is. 

    I don't know if her invitation was addressed to her and her boyfriend. If it was addressed to BM and guest, then she can bring her friend and be totally in the clear. If it was addressed to her and her boyfriend, well, invitations are non-transferable, but it would be really an act of kindness to let her bring her friend, especially since you'd already budgeted in for another person.
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  • misssunshine17misssunshine17 member
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    This isn't something you need to be stressing over. Let the friend come and be done with it.
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  • Maggie0829Maggie0829 member
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    What KeptInStitches said.  This friend would have just broken up with her boyfriend and I don't know about you but I would still be feeling pretty shitty about it after only a month and then to have to go to a wedding which is all about love and couples and commitment I would really prefer to have someone to bring along.

    And what do you mean by "long-term relationships"?  Anyone in a relationship whether that be a month or 10 years should have been invited with their SO.  To come up with some random cut-off for what determines a long-term relationship is judgey and rude.

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  • HisGirlFriday13HisGirlFriday13 member
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    A plus one is a plus one is a plus one. If you gave other people plus-ones, you're just as likely to get random people you don't know attending your wedding. That's the nature of plus-ones.

    Plus, this girl is your BM -- wedding party gets special privileges.

    Plusalso, she just broke up with her BF. She's going to need moral support.

    Let this go; it's not worth worrying about.
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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    Really? You don't think you should let one of your best friends just have this? 


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  • grumbledoregrumbledore member
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    It looks like one of my bridesmaids will probably be breaking up with her boyfriend before my wedding (which is ~1 month away). She told me (rather than asked) the other day she's planning on bringing a friend who is a girl as her +1 instead. I've only met this friend once or twice in passing.

    All of the wedding party got +1s regardless of their relationship status - but at the time the invites went out, 8 of the 10 in the party had significant others. The rest of our wedding guests only got +1s if they were in a long-term relationship.

    Am I crazy for not really being OK with her bringing a random girl as her +1? 


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  • mlg78mlg78 member
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    I get that it must frustrate you but I hated attending weddings when I was single. Allow her this little thing... Besides, you'd already saved a seat for the boyfriend before the breakup.
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  • GB520GB520 member
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    I don't think you should be concerned. Plenty of people bring friends as dates to weddings. 
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  • phiraphira member
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    KeptInStitches said:
    Yeah, you're crazy. Especially since you said all the wedding party got +1s regardless of their relationship status. At that point, once you've given a +1 (or a "and guest"), you can't control what gender that "and guest" is. 

    I don't know if her invitation was addressed to her and her boyfriend. If it was addressed to BM and guest, then she can bring her friend and be totally in the clear. If it was addressed to her and her boyfriend, well, invitations are non-transferable, but it would be really an act of kindness to let her bring her friend, especially since you'd already budgeted in for another person.
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