Our wedding isn't for over a year, but the recent threads about "Black Tie Optional" got me thinking. I completely agree that dictating a dress code for guests is rude unless it's truly a black tie event or you want to indicate it's a more casual affair (i.e. "shoes optional"). Other posters have pointed out that it is acceptable to include a dress code if it is required by the venue.
Our venue is a private club that has a dress code. My question is how should we communicate this to guests? I don't really want to include it on the invitations themselves as it just seems like a lot of extra words. Should we include an insert, put it on the website, or does it need to be on the invitation itself?
My other concern is that I can't think of anyone we are inviting that would wear something to a wedding dressed in anything that didn't meet the dress code. I really don't want my guests to think that we don't trust them to dress themselves. At the same time I would be mortified if someone showed up and was turned away for not complying with the dress code (they enforce it pretty strictly). FWIW I really couldn't care less if someone wanted to wear yoga pants to our wedding-if we could pay off the security guards to let the dress code slide we would.