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Toasts and Grand Entrance?

seniorprincesslnhsseniorprincesslnhs member
Seventh Anniversary 100 Comments 25 Love Its Name Dropper
in Nevada-Las Vegas
Hi Ladies,

Since I am sure many of you are in the same situation as me in regards to having multiple parents from parents being split up- how do you plan to handle the order of toasts? Right now, I know that both my father and mother want to make a toast as well as FI's dad (he is also the best man) and his mother- but of course, all our parents do not like their former significant other, so they won't make combined speeches. How would you put the order? I know typically the best man starts the speeches, but since that is FI's dad, would it be weird to let my maid/matron of honor go first and then the best man/dad, so it can be backed up into the other parents? Also, my future MIL told me that parents are often included in the grand entrance before the bridal party, but I dont have a lot of experience with weddings so I have no idea how that should work?!?

It's funny, I would have never thought I;d be concerned about toasts, but totally am now! 
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Re: Toasts and Grand Entrance?

  • jaime85120jaime85120 member
    Eighth Anniversary 100 Comments 25 Love Its Combo Breaker
    For the toasts you might be better off following tradition. That way if there is an issue just shrug and smile, and u get 100 years of precedent. As for the grand entrance there may be some confusion with a receiving line? Every wedding/reality show ive seen has just the bride and groom entering. Sorry I cant be more help
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  • ktbabe530ktbabe530 member
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    I haven't ever seen the parents during the grand entrance, usually just bride and groom and sometimes the wedding party.  

    For toasts I would say best man/his dad, MOH, your mom or dad, his mom, then your mom or dad.  That way they are kind of split up.  Or just draw straws and blame it on that!

    At the end of the day it's whatever you guys are most comfortable with.  

    We had our dream wedding at Mirage on May 3, 2014! 
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  • mnuppmnupp member
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    I've seen parents during Grand Entrance, announced before the bridal party. Usually parents of groom then parents of bride. It's not necessary, but it sounds like your MIL wants to be involved so it might be a nice gesture. If all of them are split &/or remarried, I'd do FOG, MOG, FOB, MOB, and allow them to walk out with their significant others.


    I wonder if you can break up the speeches, maybe by doing MOH/BM first (during salads), and your mom & dad & his mom afterwards (after dinner? after cake cutting?)? 

    As a guest, If I had to sit through 5 speeches while my food was getting cold, I'd be annoyed, especially if any of them rambled or cried (which is highly likely with 5 ... it's rude to say, but it's true).

    Or maybe since your FI's dad is BM, you could say to the moms, "We want to stick with tradition & have 3 speeches: BM, MOH, FOB. In this case that means both dads are speaking and not both moms. Because we don't want you to feel left out, we're including a unity candle/mother's rose part in the  ceremony. We hope you will be willing to do for us, but we simply can't have 5 speeches back-to-back."

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  • seniorprincesslnhsseniorprincesslnhs member
    Seventh Anniversary 100 Comments 25 Love Its Name Dropper
    Thanks for all your  thoughts ladies! We are going to buy presents for every parent with a note that says even if something does not go your way or if you begin to feel left out, just look at this token of appreciation and know we love you all as equals.
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