Now, I've basically already decided that I'm not inviting any of my dad's side of the family, but having seen other posts on this board, I am curious as to the answer for this question.
My dad passed away back in Nov 2010. Since then, I've heard from his mother twice. I've seen my aunt once. My dad has two other siblings, and I haven't even heard from them at all.
Regardless of all of this, my dad's stepfather sexually abused me when I was young (6-8 age range). I didn't tell my mom until I was much older, around 17, and I didn't tell my dad at all. I just didn't want him to lose his father figure, even if that man was scum. So I just stayed away from him when we visited my dad's family, and I kept my sons away too.
So I knew I was not going to invite my dad's stepfather to my wedding. I wanted to invite my grandmother, because on the occasions where she remembers we exist, she seems to care. But I couldn't figure out how to invite her without inviting him, or without telling her that her husband is a child molester, so I just didn't invite them at all.
So, I guess now, I'm just curious about what to say to my grandmother if I talk to her after the wedding.