In shock over wedding today.

ohmena · August 2013

I went to a wedding today (just got back)

I am still in shock - I'm allowed to be right?

It was FI's cousin's wedding.

When we got our invite we were both shocked to read that we were invited to the ceremony after reading where it was. As the venue is known to be very very small (Because of where the ceremony was being held we thought we would just get invited to the ceremony) we double and tripled checked. Invited to both. Surprised but very nice.

So we go this afternoon, get dressed, arrive in time, present in car ready for the reception, sorted.

We walk into the building, all good.

Are stopped by someone working the wedding, (after checking our names) we were told that we couldn't go in.

There was also another of FI's cousin's who said that room was full and we had to wait outside.

So we turned around and went to where we were directed. Which was outside but covered with about 20ish other people. There was a table with some biscuits and tea and coffee but that was it. We waited until the ceremony was over. Then had to wait for the photos to be done (we weren't involved in any photos till we were in the reception venue)

Then told it was time to go to the reception venue.

I wouldn't have minded a reception only invite but to invite us and others to the ceremony and then we don't get to see the service.

I'm still in shock

amorrison340 · August 2013

Uh - yeah. You are right to be shocked. This is totally weird to me. Not have enough seats, or for that matter even standing room for something you were invited is completely strange and to me rude to make you wait around like that. But, I guess it was nice for them to provide snacks?

Maybe they got in a little over their heads with the guest list and this was their attempt at fixing it. I hope the reception was at least fun!

Blue_Bird · August 2013

What the devil? How do people manage to get themselves into such predicaments, and then have the nerve to have an employee handle it for them?

misssunshine17 · August 2013

That is complete bullshit. I would have taken my gift and happily spent my afternoon at home with my FI.

NYCBruin · August 2013

WTF. I'm so confused by this, I can't even form a response. I would be very upset.

Jen4948 · August 2013

Yeah, that is shocking. I would also have just left and gone home for the day.

WonderRed · August 2013

Yeah I would have just left. Period. I don't even know what to say to that one.

RebeccaB88 · August 2013

I probably would have used the ceremony time to return their gift to the store. And then went back home.

Bubbles2014 · August 2013

I would've left and returned their gift on the way home! How rude!

MuppetOverlord · August 2013

Wait, they had a special "list"?

That's a kick in the face. FI just said "we'd leave! and we wouldn't speak to those people again".

So, what he said.

JB612 · August 2013

I am appalled. I would of taken my gift and left. One thing that pisses me off is my time being wasted.

cmclaire · August 2013

Oh my goodness. This is *so* rude. I can barely form sentences.

AddieCake · August 2013

Yeah, I would have left, too. No way in hell would I wait outside like that.

allispain · August 2013

I'd have left as well - no way I'm standing around waiting for you to have a ceremony I can't see and then take pictures and such before I'm even aloud to be inside. Not unless there was some seriously good food and a sincere apology waiting for me in the "not-cool-enough" area - and biscuits and tea just aren't going to cut it...

KeptInStitches · August 2013

I'm appalled. I can see not being allowed into a ceremony if it was at something like a Mormon temple, but because they failed to plan? Guess at that point I failed to plan to leave them my gift.

banana468 · August 2013

So this was a family thing? I'm just curious but were your FILs there?

I can only imagine a conversation that happens between siblings or ILs days after the wedding, "So let me get this straight sis: my kid and his wife to be said that they'd be there so you pushed them to the outside tent and gave them COOKIES?? Are you kidding me?"

TerriHugg · August 2013

Wow that's really rude. I wouldn't stayed as well because leaving wouldn't meant I wasted gas. LOL But I wouldn't have been happy about it at all.

grumbledore · August 2013

I probably would have left. Unless there was an open bar at the reception, then I might have stuck it out.

PrettyGirlLost · August 2013

Just asinine. I would have left and returned the gift. And I might have a few choice words for the cousin at next holiday or family event I see her at. . .

MayDay513 · August 2013

TURNED AWAY AT THE DOOR?!?!?! (Trying to pick my jaw up off my desk). WOW. I would be pissed. I don't care if there are fricking biscuits. Thats so whack! What is this a fricking night club?

ohmena · August 2013

So glad that I'm not being silly over being shocked.

I guess we stayed because we weren't the only ones outside (other cousins from both sides and FI's kid sister as well)

banana468 said:

So this was a family thing? I'm just curious but were your FILs there?

Yep. FILs were there. They were in the ceremony but some of the brides aunts and uncles and one set of FIs aunt and uncle were outside with us (along with cousins)

RebeccaB88 · August 2013

The couple seriously let family members miss the ceremony like that? Holy. Crap. I hope people had some very carefully chosen words for them. How insulting.

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