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In need of Help for wedding.....

Jbabigurl0609Jbabigurl0609
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So we were planning a wedding and reception for all family and friends to be invited to but things have come up, children work and maybe starting a new business, that we decided to just go to the JP. Im thinking the next time my SO is back home (he travels for work) to just go to the JP. But i know his family will feel left out not being here to celebrate and i love them and dont want them to be left out of the celebrating. So we have decided to throw just a reception for everyone to come down to Texas to celebrate with us, then only trouble im having is coming up with a way to do invitations to where they wont feel left out... If any one can help me i would greatly appreciate it.
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Re: In need of Help for wedding.....

  • MuppetOverlordMuppetOverlord member
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    Why not wait to get married at the reception?

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    You'll never be subject to a cash bar, gap, potluck wedding, or b-list if you marry a Muppet Overlord.
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  • misssunshine17misssunshine17 member
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    If you get married without them there, they will feel left out. I don't see why you can't just make it one event. 
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  • Jbabigurl0609Jbabigurl0609
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    Because we would have to push everything back again until we had the full amount to pay for it my mom is willing to throw a small reception/Party for close family but it will be another year or so before we will get to it. I'm doing mock drafts of everything now before i get started with my new business venture and taking care of my girls at the same time.
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  • JellyBean52513JellyBean52513 member
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    "Jbabigurl and Husband were married in a private ceremony on (date of your JOP wedding). Please join them in celebration of their marriage (date, time, location goes here)."

    Regardless of how you word the invitations, people     will feel left out if they wanted to be present and they weren't invited; that's the way of the world. Many people are, however, a little more understanding of private ceremonies. If you feel strongly about having a private wedding at the JOP, then that is your choice, knowing the consequences of how your family will feel about it. 

    At your post-wedding party, don't think that you should do wedding-y activities just to make everyone feel like they didn't miss out on attending your wedding (because they did have to miss out). No big wedding dress, no "first dance," etc... don't try to re-create a wedding that's already taken place, just make sure to throw a kick-ass party where everyone has an awesome time with you and your H!
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  • annmarie714annmarie714 member
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    Your rational is illogical.

    The biggest stress, expense, and time consumer for a wedding is planning the reception.  If you're doing the reception, with your mother as the host (which is a GIFT not an expectation/requirement/duty as a MOB) you can still have the marriage ceremony there with the same amount of people she intends to invite.  If your plan is to have a reception a year after your marriage ceremony as you stated in your reply, that's being an AW and against etiquette.  You don't get a reception whenever it's convenient to host but you can get married the next time your FI is in town.  You have a reception the same day as your marriage ceremony.
    Where there is love, there is life.-Ghandi
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  • Jbabigurl0609Jbabigurl0609
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    Thanks JellyBean52513. I think im just gonna do a layed back party where the family gets together since they live in MD
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  • NYCMercedesNYCMercedes member
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    Jbabigurl0609 said:
    Thanks JellyBean52513. I think im just gonna do a layed back party where the family gets together since they live in MD

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  • JellyBean52513JellyBean52513 member
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    You and your FI should consider waiting until that party to have the wedding. Your families would love it if they could witness that, and you'd be surprised at how many people are willing to travel to see their loved ones get married. Good luck!
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