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invitation wording for registries and gifts

FurtureMrsMJGFurtureMrsMJG
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Hi All,

 

I am in the process of doing the wording for my invitations, RSVP's, accommodation cards, so on and so forth and I am struggling with what to do for the registry/gift wording.  I know usually you put something along the lines of "the bride and groom are registered at ..."  My fiancé and I have a very small registry at bed bath and beyond for upgrades for things that we already have.  We have been together for 6 years and live together for 5 of that six.  He owns our house, and I promise I am not trying to sound cocky when I say this but, we have everything that we want/need for the most part.  We are the type of people that go on random shopping trips and purchase items we have been wanting or needing after saving up some money.  We honestly would like do improvements to our 7 year old house rather than receive gifts that we aren't sure where to store :/  We have been talking about finishing remodeling our kitchen with new counter tops, fixtures, and appliances, and also putting in hard wood floor in our living room/hallway/stairway.  I am looking for a way to put this in words.  Please in no way think that I am unappreciative for a thoughtful gift from a family member or friend but this is what we would really like as a new couple, is to upgrade the home we planning on living in for years to come. 

 

Any tips or thoughts?

 

Thanks,

 

Meaghan

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Re: invitation wording for registries and gifts

  • MobKazMobKaz member
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    Information about registries should never be included with a wedding invitation.  


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    FurtureMrsMJG said:

    Hi All,

     

    I am in the process of doing the wording for my invitations, RSVP's, accommodation cards, so on and so forth and I am struggling with what to do for the registry/gift wording.  I know usually you put something along the lines of "the bride and groom are registered at ..."  My fiancé and I have a very small registry at bed bath and beyond for upgrades for things that we already have.  We have been together for 6 years and live together for 5 of that six.  He owns our house, and I promise I am not trying to sound cocky when I say this but, we have everything that we want/need for the most part.  We are the type of people that go on random shopping trips and purchase items we have been wanting or needing after saving up some money.  We honestly would like do improvements to our 7 year old house rather than receive gifts that we aren't sure where to store :/  We have been talking about finishing remodeling our kitchen with new counter tops, fixtures, and appliances, and also putting in hard wood floor in our living room/hallway/stairway.  I am looking for a way to put this in words.  Please in no way think that I am unappreciative for a thoughtful gift from a family member or friend but this is what we would really like as a new couple, is to upgrade the home we planning on living in for years to come. 

     

    Any tips or thoughts?

     

    Thanks,

     

    Meaghan


    Ditto PP.

    Make no mention of registries. If someone asks you in person, you can say "We've decided not to register, but thank you so much for thinking of us!". If they press further as to what to buy you for a gift, respond with "We are saving up for some much needed remodeling to our home. Have you tried the bean dip?"

    Easy.

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  • FurtureMrsMJGFurtureMrsMJG
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    Thanks ladies!

     

    I personally the not mentioning of any registry was my thought but of course Mother dear is pushing the subject (not sure why, but she has begun to royally push my buttons.)

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    FurtureMrsMJG said:

    Thanks ladies!

     

    I personally the not mentioning of any registry was my thought but of course Mother dear is pushing the subject (not sure why, but she has begun to royally push my buttons.)

    Yep, they'll do that, lol. Give her the spicy bean dip.
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    FurtureMrsMJG said:

    Hi All,

     

    I am in the process of doing the wording for my invitations, RSVP's, accommodation cards, so on and so forth and I am struggling with what to do for the registry/gift wording.  I know usually you put something along the lines of "the bride and groom are registered at ..."  My fiancé and I have a very small registry at bed bath and beyond for upgrades for things that we already have.  We have been together for 6 years and live together for 5 of that six.  He owns our house, and I promise I am not trying to sound cocky when I say this but, we have everything that we want/need for the most part.  We are the type of people that go on random shopping trips and purchase items we have been wanting or needing after saving up some money.  We honestly would like do improvements to our 7 year old house rather than receive gifts that we aren't sure where to store :/  We have been talking about finishing remodeling our kitchen with new counter tops, fixtures, and appliances, and also putting in hard wood floor in our living room/hallway/stairway.  I am looking for a way to put this in words.  Please in no way think that I am unappreciative for a thoughtful gift from a family member or friend but this is what we would really like as a new couple, is to upgrade the home we planning on living in for years to come. 

     

    Any tips or thoughts?

     

    Thanks,

     

    Meaghan

    None of this ever goes on an invitation.  It is not gracious or polite to mention gifts or registries in any way, shape, or form.
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  • ViczaesarViczaesar member
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    Ditto the ladies about not putting anything in invitations.  If you don't want a lot of physical gifts you can indicate your preference for monetary gifts by either not registering or creating a very small registry (for the people who won't give you a cash gift no matter what; creating a small registry helps cut down on random gifts).  Don't outright ask for cash anywhere, but if you're asked where you're registered you can say that you're registered at X store, and you're also saving up for some house improvements. 

    The key to doing this without being rude is 1) not advertizing your registry in invitations or on the first page of your wedding website, if you have one; 2) not registering for cash (e.g. honeymoon registries, gift card registries); 3) providing the information about your registry and home improvement projects only when asked (which is why you shouldn't have registry info on the first page of your website; clicking on a tab marked "More Info" or "Registries" is the digital equivalent of asking where you're registered). 

    If you have a shower, keep in mind that showers are for physical presents, not monetary ones.  You don't technically have to register in order to have a shower, but it makes it much easier for your guests to pick out physical gifts for you.  So-called greenback showers or gift card showers are not okay.  If you really don't want physical gifts you should decline offers of a shower. 

    Also keep in mind that Lowes and Home Depot have registries, but they're not national registries - guests have to go to the actual store at which you register in order to access your registry.  If you need things like tools for your projects you might look into registering at Sears or Amazon.



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