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hardlyhannahhardlyhannah member
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It's starting.

I almost had a breakdown last night when I was laying in bed, and it started because I am having extreme guilt over the money my parents are giving us for the wedding. They offered, and I know they want to, but I also know that they don't have it right now. My mom was telling me how she got a zero interest credit card to pay for the stuff she wants to pay for that they don't have cash available right now. I feel so bad, because my parents have been working VERY hard for the past 5 years to get out of credit card debt. I don't want her to do more just for a stinkin wedding! And I know that she is planning on paying it off before the promo period is over, but I still feel really really bad.

And then I had the nightmares. All night. All about missing details or not finishing things on time. I am pretty tired today.

I decided that I need to talk to my mom about the money. I can't stop her, she's going to do whatever she wants, but I need to tell her how I feel. The other stuff, I just need to start getting my shit together.
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  • amaryann210amaryann210 member
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    I understand your feelings completely.  The conversation with my parents about money was extremely uncomfortable for me, even though they were offering, I wasn't asking.  We just have to let them love us and trust that they won't overextend themselves. 

    My wedding stress dream last night was that my engagement ring fell apart and I couldn't find all the pieces to put it back together. 

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  • Stina51286Stina51286 member
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    Yuck, to all of it!

    When my mom lost her job in January she kept saying she was still going to help us out no matter what. We told her we could handle it and not worry about it. She got a job in June and is still trying to play catch up. She said she will be giving us what she said she would out of her tax refund. We keep trying to tell her its not that big of a deal, but she still feels bad.

     

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  • simplykaylasimplykayla member
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    The nightmares are the worst! I've been having some bad ones too.

    My mom keeps apologizing for not being able to help financially with the wedding. I know that she had always planned to when the time came, but now that the time is here she's really not in a place to afford anything. I keep telling her that it's completely okay, but that doesn't stop her from feeling bad about it. So since she can't contribute financially she's been helping out a lot in other ways, DIYing my flowers and such. I've been really grateful for that!
    I would just explain to your mom how you're feeling about it, and if she insists that it's okay I'd let it go and be confident that its her decision and she can handle it.

    Good luck!
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    edited August 2013
    Sent out 78 invitations. I've been getting word back from people that they've been receiving them... and 6 so far have either been damaged or lost. *cries* One of my biggest wedding fears is that no one will come to the wedding...
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  • hardlyhannahhardlyhannah member
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    (not that I am downplaying how horrible the situation is - but i'm trying to cheer you up @lplions)

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  • schellzinatorschellzinator member
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    This is a recurring theme! My parents generously offered to contribute to our wedding back in December. Well, fast forward, my mom was talking to me last week about how she is concerned about finances. I told her that I don't want her to contribute anymore and FI and I can make due.  However, she said that they are fine and she still plans on contributing...so I know that feeling well. And they are stubborn - just like me.
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    hardlyhannah said:
    (not that I am downplaying how horrible the situation is - but i'm trying to cheer you up @lplions)

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    I do love his happy trees........... it made me smile. (up to 7 now, being damaged or lost or missing pieces.) FH & I agreed that in a week or so we'll send out texts or fb messages to all of our guests that we haven't heard anything from and say, "Just wanted to make sure you got your invite okay, we've been having some problems with them being delivered."
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  • hardlyhannahhardlyhannah member
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    I think that's a good plan
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  • schellzinatorschellzinator member
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    Ummm...I'm loving the revival of those boy bands!
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  • jessyk1065jessyk1065 member
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    Right?? I saw a preview the other day and I was like "am I too old to go see the one direction movie?" Lol
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    Nooooo.... @alisonmarie658, we would have gotten along so well... but.. BSB is WAAAY better than NStink. ;-)
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  • hardlyhannahhardlyhannah member
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    lplions said:
    Nooooo.... @alisonmarie658, we would have gotten along so well... but.. BSB is WAAAY better than NStink. ;-)
    Don't be hatin.

    I never really picked sides so I am unbiased here - both are awesome.

    I will say that I didn't see BSB in concert in their height, but snuck in to one of their concerts in like, 2005 or 2006. It was awesome. When I get home I will find the picture that I have from it, you will be very jealous. lol (only because it is the perfect picture of them doing the perfect quintessential boy band dance move - it's probably one of my favorite pictures ever actually)
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    Confession: I loved them both equally. I lean more towards BSB, though.

    One of my good friends from high school went to a recent BSB concert.... and went to the after party VIP experience. She hugged them. I admit it: 12 yr old me was way jealous.
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  • jessyk1065jessyk1065 member
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    @lplions, I lean more towards BSB too, although at the time they were really popular I tended to like N*SYNC a bit more, probably because my friends did too. I did go to one N*SYNC concert and sat in the WAAAAAAAAAAY back nosebleeds...same with Britney Spears, lol.

     

    I have been stressing lately and I don't know why, since we just found our florist (when we didn't think we'd be able to afford one), I have my hair trial (again, didn't think we'd be able to afford a hair stylist and lucked out) this weekend, last shower is this weekend, invites are out, RSVPs are coming back, rehearsal dinner is good to go, etc.

     

    I had a dream that really freaked me out the other day though...I know I've mentioned this before, but one of my bridesmaids had cancer and passed away this April. I had a nightmare the other day that I won't describe in full, but it involved her, and it just really made me sad :( I need to talk to her parents soon to figure out how I can honor her during the ceremony. Thanks for "listening," ladies. I think this has been bothering me more than I realized it had...

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  • schellzinatorschellzinator member
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    I prefer BSB!


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