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bridesmaid money trouble

NdemickNdemick member
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I have a bridesmaid who keeps complaining about how much everything is costing. I am being more than accommodating with the prices for everything. I'm allowing them to choose their own dress from a large selection of styles and prices (some as low as $50), I'm letting them pick their own shoes, I'm paying for their hair and makeup. I don't know what to do. She's really become a debbie downer since I asked her to be in my wedding. HELP!!
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  • itzMSitzMS member
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    Ndemick said:
    I have a bridesmaid who keeps complaining about how much everything is costing. I am being more than accommodating with the prices for everything. I'm allowing them to choose their own dress from a large selection of styles and prices (some as low as $50), I'm letting them pick their own shoes, I'm paying for their hair and makeup. I don't know what to do. She's really become a debbie downer since I asked her to be in my wedding. HELP!!

    Have you asked her what "everything" means? I find it hard to believe that she's causing a scene over a $50 dress.

    Maybe someone (your MOH perhaps?) has asked/demanded her to contribute to a shower and bachelorette party that she can't afford or doesn't want to help host.

    Does she have to travel/stay in a hotel for your wedding?


     

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  • GlassButtonGlassButton member
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    You should ask her to elaborate the situation to you. Perhaps $50 might be too much for her or she's being asked to contribute for the shower with funds she doesn't have. Also, while $50 might not seem like much to you, did you ask her what her budget was at the start? Have you asked her to lunches and then made her pay for her own meal? I know these are things you wouldn't think twice about but some people have really small budgets and you should definitely discuss this with her.
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  • Blue_BirdBlue_Bird member
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    edited August 2013
    It's clear to me that you didn't ask her budget at the beginning. If you had, these problems wouldn't have come up. If you're letting them choose their own dresses, just give them a color and maybe length. I don't have $50 for something I don't like that I'll never wear again either.
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  • southernbelle0915southernbelle0915 mod
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    If you can afford it, I would just pay for her dress so she'd stop complaining. That way, there's literally nothing for her to complain about. 
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  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    Before I can make a judgment, I want to know what she is paying for that she claims is "expensive."

    Then I'd either tell her I'll pay for it or "you know, I'm not forcing you to pay for anything that's not in your budget.  So, I'd appreciate not hearing about how 'expensive' you find things."
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