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Help! BM dress doesn't fit! - Update

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edited September 2013 in Attire & Accessories Forum

I am having four girls stand up for me in my wedding. Three of us (one lives out of state) went dress shopping about six weeks ago and came up with a dress from David's Bridal. One of my girls was having a lousy day and the thought of trying on a size 16 dress did not appeal to her. We decided to get the 14 which had to be ordered in. Well it arrived and it's too small!! It only zips 2/3s of the way up! She swore to me it would fit by 10/19. I went to her house last week and asked if she tried it on again and she said she would probably wait until like two weeks before the wedding. She is really stressing me out about this. What can/should I do?

 

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Re: Help! BM dress doesn't fit! - Update

  • You really can't do much, except trust that it will fit.

    DB dresses come in super quick, so if it comes down to it a 16 can probably be ordered two weeks out and come in in time. It may mean buying an extra dress if the exchange period (if there is one at all) has ended.

    Is it possible she could find a dress off the rack that would fit, if she had to?
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  • If she gets it close, a seamstress can get her an extra inch in taking it out.
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  • Just wait and hope it fits

     
  • Try not to stress and DON'T stress her out....especially if she's a stress eater like I am!  She was probably quit embarrassed when it didn't fit and might not really want to talk about it.  You just have to try to trust her (heck, brides trust that other BMs won't gain or lose too much for a dress to fit months later) and take solace in the fact that there ARE options, like the PPs mentioned.
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  • Don't worry about it too much and don't make her feel pressured that she has to lose weight or something.  A seamstress might be able to give the dress a corset back to allow for the gap or something.
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  • And probably break out if stressed

     
  • There is nothing for you to do. It is her dress and her choice to purchase a dress to small. Thus it is on her to fix it. The wedding is not until the middle of October so you need to chill out and allow your friend to handle this problem.

  • Thanks @Maggie0829 I would try to "chill out" and wait and see what happens except I am a proactive person and can't just sit on my hands and wait for things to fix themselves. 

    bunni727 I think that is a great idea. I should contact the store where we got and see about getting another size.

    Thank you all for the input, you are right the last thing I want to do is stress out my BFF who is standing up for me.

     

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  • Had a similar issue myself. My BM dress was from David's bridal and was still a size too small one month before wedding. I ordered a matching shawl that was same color and fabric as dress, took this to a drycleaners and they were able to sew in side panels underneath arms. Nobody knew! It cost 40.00 total. 20 for shawl, 20 for alterations! Hope this helps.
  • Good luck

     
  • Thanks @smdavis23! That's a great idea!! I think I can order a shawl online too!

     

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  • Thanks @Maggie0829 I would try to "chill out" and wait and see what happens except I am a proactive person and can't just sit on my hands and wait for things to fix themselves. 

    bunni727 I think that is a great idea. I should contact the store where we got and see about getting another size.

    Thank you all for the input, you are right the last thing I want to do is stress out my BFF who is standing up for me.

    I am a very proactive person as well.  I like to get things done in advance.  But what you don't seem to be getting is that this is not your problem to rectify.  This problem is your BMs and she is the one who needs to figure out a way to solve it.  And if she is a mature adult I am sure she can handle it without you freaking out.  You cannot force her to fix this she has to do it on her own.

  • Okay ladies, learn from my mistake and do not try to fix everything. You were right, she is in control of herself and I should not have tried to fix this for fear of what was going to happen the day of. I have spoke with her about it and all it did was stress her out and make her feel bad. Lessoned learned.

     

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