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Do I invite my step-mom to my work wedding shower??

DesireeM2013DesireeM2013
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I am having three wedding showers. One for my friends, one for family and one for work people. My mother and I work in the same department and so there is a mother and daughter duo who wants to throw me a bridal shower. I was going to invite my wedding party girls and then my work friends. Since my mom and I have overlapping friends at work I feel that I will make her uncomfortable by inviting my step-mom. I have always heard that you are suppose to invite mother of the bride and mother of the groom to all bridal showers. Does that apply to step-mothers? My mother and step-mom tolerate each other but are by no means friends. I just do not want to hurt anyone's feelings and also do whats proper etiquette. Any help?!?!?!?!
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Re: Do I invite my step-mom to my work wedding shower??

  • Simply FatedSimply Fated member
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    Work showers are usually just for work people, but if you would like her to join you, then it should be fine.
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  • fearlessbrideMIfearlessbrideMI member
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    It is my understanding that work showers are only for coworkers, no parents/bridal party. The coincidence that you and your mom work together is just that. There really is no need for the other moms need to be invited
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  • jessicabessicajessicabessica member
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    edited August 2013
    I have only seen work showers for coworkers.  At my workplace, they are not just thrown/attended by female coworkers, and usually the FI (or husband, if after the wedding) is the only non-coworker that comes.  

    ETA: Are you inviting all of your coworkers to the wedding that are invited to the shower?  Work showers are an exception to the etiquette rule that all shower invitees must be invited to the wedding, but I think that once you start inviting outside-work people (like your bridal party), it looks less like a work shower, so be careful with that.  
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  • SwazzleSwazzle member
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    I would just keep it as coworkers only. No bridesmaids, no stepmom. Your mom will obviously be there since you also work together. 



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  • Grabows14Grabows14 member
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    edited August 2013
    I agree with PPs, leave step mom out of it.
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  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    No, keep the work shower limited to co-workers. That means no stepmother, bridesmaids, or anyone else who doesn't work for the company.
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  • DesireeM2013DesireeM2013
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    OK! Thank you guys so much for your help! I was going to invite bridesmaids but now I will just leave it to my mom and co workers. I was planning on only inviting the coworkers that are invited to the wedding, otherwise I think it will get too complicated.
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