My mom died when I was very young and my grandparents were my guardians. For the past several years, my grandmother has been pretty immobile and it's very hard for her to go places. She was able to come when I picked out my dress but it was difficult and everything. Her sister, my great aunt, also came. Let's call her Beth. Beth is pretty old, over 80 (but she is in better shape than my grandmother who is 5 years younger). I used to live near Beth and we used to shop a lot. She also gave me a lot of financial help when I was just out of college. But these days, she just bothers me a lot (I know I sound terrible.. but you know.. old people can be difficult). Anyway, my FI and I are paying for the wedding. My grandmother begged to buy my wedding dress so I let her (even though I said no at first). Beth really wanted to contribute too and so I let her buy the veil. She wants to buy accessories too, but I've already bought that stuff.
Anyway, Beth keeps saying she really wants to come when I go get my dress altered. The first time she brought it up was a long time ago and she said something which alluded to me not being able to make sure they do everything the way it should be done (she never worked in fashion or sewing or anything..so it's not like she would be an expert). I don't remember exactly what she said, but I was sort of offended. She has also said sort of negative things in the past - like when I first showed her my engagement ring her first comment was about how ugly my nail polish color was. Or when I picked out my wedding dress she said something about my stomach (I got pretty upset and my grandmother told her to be quiet).
She also can be kind of embarrassing when shopping - like rude to sales people, doesn't say thank you, etc. I'm afraid she is going to be that way if she comes to the fitting and that she will want things a certain way, which I won't want. (She can be really annoying that way - i.e. insisting over and over again that our second bedroom should have a couch and desk in it instead of be a guest bedroom... - stupid things like that).
I posted this on the etiquette board because I don't know if since my grandmother paid for the dress and she's not very mobile, and my aunt "Beth" paid for the veil, if I'm obligated to let her come. I guess I can just bite the bullet and bring my two co-maids-of-honor who know what my aunt is like and just be very assertive and clear that she's there to share in the experience and that's it. What would you do?
Thanks.
P.S. I don't know why the spacing got messed up here when I was typing.