I just recently got engaged and we are trying to set a date for next summer, my fiance is a teacher and it only makes sense for us to have our special day during that time. My best friend and MOH is also my fiances sister. I have looked at several places and have found a reception place I absolutely love and a church near the venue (that is not $2,000 for the ceremony and that will allow us to marry there without being members). There are three saturdays that both the church and venue are available and only one of those days work with my fiance and my schedule. My moh/future sister in law has been dating her boyfriend for almost a year and they are pretty serious. Between the two of them, they have four weddings next summer- one that she is in and three that he is in. Unfortuantely, the date that works for our dream wedding falls on the same date as one of my MOH/future sister in law's boyfriends weddings that he is in. When I told her about the date we are probably going to book, she told me she would be really sad if he had to miss it, he'd be left out in the whole process and that she was pretty upset about it. She also told me that he was taking it personal because I was having my wedding when he can't be there & that if it was someone else in the family it would be a date change, mind you they have been dating for almost a year and I have been with my fiance for over 8 years. When we called him to tell him it wasn't personal and we felt bad about the situation he said he didn't understand why we couldn't change the date. My entire immeadiate family can make the date and so can my fiances. I have look for other churches that will marry us without a steep bill and have come up empty. I also have made a calender with the dates that are available with all of their date conflicts and of all the venues I have found I have one other possible date that does not cause them conflicts and a place that would just be okay to have the reception. Mind you I would have to find a new church as well and check with all my other immeadiate family members that they could make it. The reason why this is so difficult is because its my best friend and also my fiance's sister. I know she will be dissappointed if I pick this date and I feel like all the fun things that I was looking forward to doing with her are not going to be the same because I know she will be upset. I was so happy when I first got engaged and now I am completely miserable and so upset. I feel like our friendship is never going to be the same because there is going to be tension if we move forward with this date and all of the MOH duties will be more upseting for her. I feel so awkward and terrible if I book this date because I know it upsets her. I also feel like if I don't do what I want to do, I will be upset and miss out of having my dream wedding. I know she feels its very important for him to be there but every other family member that is involved has said that I need to book the date with his conflict- that its not fair to us to change for him & that if they feel its so important for him to be there that he will be there. I just don't know what to do and am soooo upset- this should be the best time of my life and I am miserable!