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Wedding Etiquette Forum
SmashingFiancee
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Bride in jeans
I just came home from an old friend from college. The bride itself, never saw herself getting married and has had several panic attacks going through the whole process of planning the wedding even though she really wanted it, that they just decided to keep it "low-key and casual", which it also said on the invitation. So all the guests arrived, dressed casually. Yet we were still overdressed compared to the bride who walked down the aisle in jeans and a white top with her hair pulled up. It almost looked as if she had rolled out of bed and dressed up to go to work, instead of getting married. I'm not one to judge over this, I have this opinion that everyone should celebrate their wedding the way they want it to be. It just felt very awkward for me and some other guests to feel overdressed compared to the bride. I was breaking etiquette without wanting it. The rest of the wedding went traditional, ceremony, cocktail hour, diner, first dance... Yet all the time the bride was wearing her jeans and white top.
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Re: Bride in jeans
After 6 years and 2 boys, finally tying the knot on October 27th, 2013!
I don't think it matters how casual you tell people it'll be, I doubt anyone would ever expect the bride to wear jeans. I don't think I'd ever wear jeans to a wedding unless I was specifically told it was okay.
ETA: through word of mouth. I know attire shouldn't be dictated of course
After 6 years and 2 boys, finally tying the knot on October 27th, 2013!
If this was in a church, inappropriate. Otherwise, you sound a bit judgey. I'm guessing you were just thrown for a loop by everything, which is understandable because, yeah, no one expects the bride to be wearing jeans. Casual is all well and good, but that's taking things a bit far.
ETA: fix typo
This does help the case against putting dress code on invitations. It's just always up for interpretations.
I was at one "wedding" celebration- they were married 2 weeks prior in an extremely private ceremony (only parents and siblings) where it was a backyard farmers field BBQ (Not a PPD)with the dress being casual, our "group" came in skirts, (sensible)heels and the men in slacks with a nice shirt, the bride and groom were in their wedding clothes, everyone else was in jeans, we felt so out of place but we were comfortable, other people can do what they want. <?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" />
I am getting married October 5th and I am wearing BLUE JEANS! I figure it's my day and I want to wear what I want. I will bling it up with some rhinestone applique's down the legs and wear a nice feminine lacy top, shoulder lenth veil and blue/white bouquet & round it off with white ankle boots (also blinged up by soon to be step daughters). I told all my guests it's our "Blue Jean Wedding" and they know it's a casual affair and to "come as they are". I love the idea of brides in elaborate formal gowns but it's just not "me". I feel like I'd look like I was trying to be someone other than the down-home casual girl that I am. My family knows me, my friends know me. They ALL know who we are and how much we love each other. Some even seem relieved that they do not need to worry about what to wear.
My only question is, "Do I take off my veil before the 'after party'? " We aren't doing a formal receiption either. Just calling it the "after party" at restaurant/night club nearby. We will be doing a lot of dancing.. I am SOOO not the "look at ME!" type of girl so I am leaning towards taking it off but my girlfriends think I should leave it on.
What do you think? Leave it on or take it off?