Wedding Reception Forum

HELP!

Well since I became engaged a year and a half ago, for multiple reasons we have had to change budget and venues multiple times. We are set to be married in 2 months and have finally decided to go to the courthouse to get married and have a backyard super casual bbq style reception in our backyard. I have no idea what to use for decorations or even if they are important. The only part I know for certain if that I LOVE mason jars and I have quite and few that I would really like to use and I have burlap for them. I have a general idea for food; pulled pork bbq, hamburgers, hot dogs, fried chicken and all the traditional southern sides. His family is more traditional and would rather we have a formal church wedding with all of the traditions to go along with it. We just are not into that nor do we have the money for it. My family is ok with whatever we choose to do. I am perfectly happy with partying in our backyard, drinking beer and playing cornhole. How do I make this an event that everybody will be ok with? 

I know this was a bit of a long post. I sincerely apologize! I appreciate all input! Thanks<3

Re: HELP!

  • Thanks! His mother already has a horrible attitude towards me because she cannot control out relationship so I have a feeling I already know what her reaction will be!
  • Just make sure you have tables and chairs for everyone.  You can decorate with whatever you love. If you love mason jars, feel free to use them.  Maybe use the mason jars with some loose wildflowers in each with ivory linens.
  • allispainallispain member
    1000 Comments 500 Love Its Third Anniversary First Answer
    edited July 2013
    Don't worry about what your FI's family's expectations are for the wedding. If they bring it up, have FI speak to them and tell them that this is what the two of you have decided to do. You don't need to give any explanation (budget, etc.). If they keep pushing, they're just being rude.

    As for decorations, I agree with PP that some loose wildflowers or something of the sort would be lovely to go with your mason jars and burlap. One good, budget-friendly way to handle this (if you're not in an area where there are places you can easily go pick your own) is to go to the florist's section of your local grocery store a day or two before the wedding and buy flowers there. If they're already in arrangements that you like, awesome, but if not, you can take them apart and rearrange them as you prefer. I have a friend who did that and her flowers looked amazing - at a fraction of the cost too.

    ETA - I should add, my above advice regarding your FI's family is because I'm assuming that you are paying for this all yourself and they are not contributing. If they are contributing, then they do have a say in what your plans are.
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  • It sounds to me like you have your head screwed on right and are planning a lovely event that you can afford.

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  • I think you should do whatever you are perfectly happy with as long as your guests are hosted properly. If you are happy on your special day I can't see why your guests wouldn't be either!
  • I agree - This YOUR day!  Celebrate it the way YOU want to. So long as you and your future husband are happy that is ALL that matters! 
  • doeydodoeydo member
    Seventh Anniversary 5000 Comments 500 Love Its 5 Answers
    You don't need to please everyone.  Just yourself and you FI.
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  • To please everyone: Have tables, chairs, plenty of drinks, plenty of food, and have garbage cans readily available. Have areas that are shaded, have indoor seating for those who prefer to sit indoors (sensitive to temperature, allergies, injuries- you never know), and a backup plan in case of rain. 
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