Hair and make up etiquette and timeline issues

Re: Hair and make up etiquette and timeline issues

• banana468 member

  

  September 2013

  I think you need to back up the timeline. With a ceremony at 7, even with a first look @ 6, can hair and makeup get done in 3 hours? With an appropriately sized staff, that should work.
  
  

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• MayDay513 member

  

  September 2013

  CrazyCatLady3 said:

  I have access to the bridal suite at my venue starting at 3 pm, with our ceremony starting at 7 pm  (as of now, wedding is scheduled to end at midnight but we may extend it an hour).  I have hired my photographers for 8 hours, and wanted to have some getting ready pics in the bridal suite.  If I get into the bridal suite at 3 pm and have my hair and makeup artist start right away, it will probably take an hour to finish.  Then we want to do a first look and get a bunch of pics outside (including bridal party) before ceremony.  So basically there's not a lot of time then for my BMs to have their hair/makeup done by my MU artist if they want it done professionally.  Is it rude to not offer this as an option, and just ask them to show up to the bridal suite at say 3:30 with their hair and MU already done (either by themselves or at a salon of their choosing)?

  I do not think it is rude to not provide that option. Your bridesmaids can figure out their own hair and make up. If you are not asking for hair or make up a certain way, then you are fine.
  
  In regards to timeline an hour for hair and make up seems a little short. Have you checked to see how long it will take?
  

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• mstallae member

  

  September 2013

  I don't see this as a problem as long as its clear they need to be ready when they show up.  I was a BM in a wedding where I was told to show up with my hair done etc at 10 am for pictures before the ceremony. 
  
  If you want the experience of getting ready with your girls maybe you could do your nails all together (ask them if they'd like to come - or offer to pay for it) the day or 2 before...
  

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• MandyMost member

  

  September 2013

  I don't think it's rude to not offer your bridal party hair and makeup, as long as you're not requiring they get their hair and makeup done! 

  
  

  I'd question your timeline a little, though...why not ask them to show up at 3pm, and be dressed and ready to go at 4pm, OR ask them to show up all ready to go anytime between 3pm and 4pm. I'd be irritated if I got there all ready at 3:30pm, with nothing to do but sit there while you get ready. 

  
  

  Also, have you spoken to the hair and makeup people? Do you think an hour is really enough time for both? Also, I'm assuming you may get there and it will take a little time to get set up and get started. Nevertheless, as long as you're done by 5pm that gives you an hour and a half for photos and a half hour to refresh for the ceremony yourself. 

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• misssunshine17 member

  

  September 2013

  How long are you planning on taking pictures for? I would say get ready separately, do pics with your FI first, then have them there to take pics at 5pm or something. I think it's a little inconsiderate to have them standing around waiting/even have them in pictures for three hours. 

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• ashleyep member

  

  September 2013

  Are the bridesmaids all local? If you weren't getting married near where I live I'd be kind of irked if you were all "hey I'm getting my hair and makeup done, but you're on your own." Then I'd have to research my own salon - could you recommend a place for them? Or do some research of your own and give them a list?

  

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• OliveOilsMom member

  

  September 2013

  Do you have to have your hair and makeup done at the bridal suite?  Can you and your BM have all hair & make up done for when you arrive at the bridal suite?  You can still get pictures of you putting your dress on at the right time, you would just have hair & make up done.  We did this.  My photographer requested that I have hair & make up done and the BMs all dressed and ready to go when she arrived. I would speak to your photographer, see what they recommend.  Then speak with your hair & make up people to see if the timeline your photogs wants can be accomplished on their end, ie having all girls ready to go at, say, 4:30 PM.

  

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• msuprincess04 member

  

  September 2013

  My sister is doing my hair and my make-up as part of her wedding present. She's also doing herself, her daughter (a bridesmaid), and my mom. I told the rest of my bridesmaids that they can do their hair and make-up however they wished, but, if they wanted to have it professionally done, I was given a suggestion from the planner of an artist who will come to the villa (where I'm getting ready) and do a great job. I also let them know how much she costs. It's a while off, so there's nothing written in stone. As for getting ready, I just told them all to do as they wished. They are welcome to come to the villa and great ready with me around 1p, or to show up there at 3p for photos. Of course, I'd like them to be there, but it's not a summons, just a preference.

   

  I'd definitely check with your artists about your timeline. I ran mine through both my sister and by my photographer to make sure we can get through this as smoothly as possible.

  "There is always some madness in love. But there is also always some reason in madness." -Friedrich Nietzsche, "On Reading and Writing"

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• CrazyCatLady3 member

  

  September 2013 edited September 2013

  I am having only 3 BMs, and they are all local.  I haven't done a trial yet but got a rec for someone who does both hair and makeup.  She doesn't have a salon but comes to you, which is why I wanted to do it in the bridal suite.

  
  

  I see your points about making the BMs sit around while we do pics.  Maybe I should just do hair and makeup, getting ready pics by myself with maybe my sis and mom, then do first look, then ask bridal party to show up with hair and makeup done by 5:15 or so to do bridal party pics.

  
  

  All the weddings I have been in were destination weddings and we spend most of the day getting ready with the bridal party, but there really wasn't any other place to go, and the hotel rooms were already booked for the entire day.

  
  

  ETA: I wasn't going to have a team of hair/MU artists come because there are so few people and I don't think it would be worth their time, so it would probably be expensive on a per person basis for so few people.

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• [Deleted User] member

  

  September 2013

  It's not rude, just let them know well enough in advance that you won't be providing a stylist for them and you would like them to meet you at the location with hair & makeup done, or at least their hair if they want to do their own makeup when they get there. This way they can book appointments with their regular stylist ASAP if they want.

  In regards to time, I think you need to give yourself a minimum of two hours. I have short hair and all my stylist did was curl it so it had more body & my makeup and it took her almost 90 minutes to do it all.

  You may want to have your girls come more around 4:00 pm or even 4:30. This way you can have some time to yourself & relax before they all show up. The BM don't need to be there that early just sitting around.

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• Abbyjensen member

  

  September 2013

  I think that your plan of having them come at 5:15 for bridal party pictures is fine. I've been a bridesmaid before and had to to the whole day get ready together thing, and honestly, by the time the wedding came around, I was tired and was ready to be done.
  
  I would make it open ended. Say that you will be in the bridal suite at 3:00 getting ready, and that they should be at the location and ready for pictures at 5:15, and if they happen to finish getting done early they can show up at the bridal suite any time after 3:00.

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• MDbride1012 member

  

  September 2013

    I am having my bridesmaids come at 1PM. My ceremony starts at 4:30. We are having a team of makeup artist come and was told to allow 1.5 hours for each girls hair and makeup. There are  6 bridesmaids, my flower girl, and myself. I will also be providing lunch for the girls while we get ready. We aren't doing a first look or anything like that.

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