what do you guys and girls think about this??

LeciaB · September 2013

Pastor refuses to marry bride because of her dress

http://www.americapreachers.com/christian-news/pastor-refuses-to-perform-ceremony-because-of-brides-sexy-dress/

marsm4 · September 2013

I think the pastor should have addressed any issues he/she would have had with attire before agreeing to marry them. Then they could decide whether to find someone else or dress differently.

[Deleted User] · September 2013

chile cheese, there are rules of propriety in just about any/every house of worship I can think of. that's A. B. is that ya'll know good n' hell well this girl was given that standard guideline print out we all got for what you need to know before getting married in OUR church. now I get that they can't and shouldn't tell you how to dress and freedom of expression, blah blah blah but being a fan of hoochieosity is (and should) present a problem if you've agreed to be subject to someone else's idea of what is and is not proper. As an organization the church has the right to refuse service if you aren't in compliance with their guidelines, that's the tradeoff. Don't know if I would've taken the same step if I were him but I cosign this pastor. That day, that ceremony, that sacrament is in part about honoring God and the covenant that is made with him as a couple (this is if you marry in church) that dress, now's not the time boo. So yes wear whatever you like, except in a place where they hand you a prayer cloth if your regular first sunday skirt is too short. I don't believe she didn't get the checklist and I don't believe she didn't read it. I think she thought to herself eh, what's he gonna do refuse to marry us? Yeah girl, that's exactly what it says in your welcome packet. Article says there was another minister in attendance, they had the license and the whole shebang, why couldn't they get married in the parking lot or across the street and keep it pressin? did they get married?

LeciaB · September 2013

sultryzulu said:

chile cheese, there are rules of propriety in just about any/every house of worship I can think of. that's A. B. is that ya'll know good n' hell well this girl was given that standard guideline print out we all got for what you need to know before getting married in OUR church. now I get that they can't and shouldn't tell you how to dress and freedom of expression, blah blah blah but being a fan of hoochieosity is (and should) present a problem if you've agreed to be subject to someone else's idea of what is and is not proper. As an organization the church has the right to refuse service if you aren't in compliance with their guidelines, that's the tradeoff. Don't know if I would've taken the same step if I were him but I cosign this pastor. That day, that ceremony, that sacrament is in part about honoring God and the covenant that is made with him as a couple (this is if you marry in church) that dress, now's not the time boo. So yes wear whatever you like, except in a place where they hand you a prayer cloth if your regular first sunday skirt is too short. I don't believe she didn't get the checklist and I don't believe she didn't read it. I think she thought to herself eh, what's he gonna do refuse to marry us? Yeah girl, that's exactly what it says in your welcome packet. Article says there was another minister in attendance, they had the license and the whole shebang, why couldn't they get married in the parking lot or across the street and keep it pressin? did they get married?

But I dont know why they just didnt go somewhere else.. you just needed that person to sign the certificate.
all of this.. let the church say Amen

LeciaB · September 2013

side note @sultryzulu .. you had me rolling on the prayer cloth part...

tirathemrs · September 2013

Stupid is as Stupid does..

Forest Gump

[Deleted User] · September 2013

LeciaB said:

sultryzulu said:

chile cheese, there are rules of propriety in just about any/every house of worship I can think of. that's A. B. is that ya'll know good n' hell well this girl was given that standard guideline print out we all got for what you need to know before getting married in OUR church. now I get that they can't and shouldn't tell you how to dress and freedom of expression, blah blah blah but being a fan of hoochieosity is (and should) present a problem if you've agreed to be subject to someone else's idea of what is and is not proper. As an organization the church has the right to refuse service if you aren't in compliance with their guidelines, that's the tradeoff. Don't know if I would've taken the same step if I were him but I cosign this pastor. That day, that ceremony, that sacrament is in part about honoring God and the covenant that is made with him as a couple (this is if you marry in church) that dress, now's not the time boo. So yes wear whatever you like, except in a place where they hand you a prayer cloth if your regular first sunday skirt is too short. I don't believe she didn't get the checklist and I don't believe she didn't read it. I think she thought to herself eh, what's he gonna do refuse to marry us? Yeah girl, that's exactly what it says in your welcome packet. Article says there was another minister in attendance, they had the license and the whole shebang, why couldn't they get married in the parking lot or across the street and keep it pressin? did they get married?

But I dont know why they just didnt go somewhere else.. you just needed that person to sign the certificate.
all of this.. let the church say Amen

Guh!!? Leesh they didn't even have to go somewhere else, there was ANOTHER officiant invited as a guest to their wedding - my memory bad but I think the article said he offered to perform the ceremony. Hell I don't know maybe getting married in the parking lot didn't sync with her um, vision. *snort*

aquari0216 · September 2013

Tryin not to judge but she was stupid for thinking (although many churches are come as you are) that dress was cool...would you wear it for servive....she betta go find a hotel...I honestly don't think MY dress was appropriate in a church setting...hence the venues I chose...a fountain, changed to a banquet hall changed to a cruise...forgive me but im kinda feeling like it was common sense....

aquari0216 · September 2013

chile cheese, there are rules of propriety in just about any/every house of worship I can think of. that's A. B. is that ya'll know good n' hell well this girl was given that standard guideline print out we all got for what you need to know before getting married in OUR church. now I get that they can't and shouldn't tell you how to dress and freedom of expression, blah blah blah but being a fan of hoochieosity is (and should) present a problem if you've agreed to be subject to someone else's idea of what is and is not proper. As an organization the church has the right to refuse service if you aren't in compliance with their guidelines, that's the tradeoff. Don't know if I would've taken the same step if I were him but I cosign this pastor. That day, that ceremony, that sacrament is in part about honoring God and the covenant that is made with him as a couple (this is if you marry in church) that dress, now's not the time boo. So yes wear whatever you like, except in a place where they hand you a prayer cloth if your regular first sunday skirt is too short. I don't believe she didn't get the checklist and I don't believe she didn't read it. I think she thought to herself eh, what's he gonna do refuse to marry us? Yeah girl, that's exactly what it says in your welcome packet. Article says there was another minister in attendance, they had the license and the whole shebang, why couldn't they get married in the parking lot or across the street and keep it pressin? did they get married?
AND SHE DROPS THE MIC EXITING STAGE LEFT!

HMAmara · September 2013

How are you going to where a dress like that in church anyway? I'm not super religious but in a house of worship you should know how to act.

MissusD1116 · September 2013

Wow! No words! She knew better...or maybe not??

cidefi · September 2013

This is why I'm not using a church for my ceremony or reception...too many rules. Not I'm showing up in something like what she had on, but my chuch won't let us serve alcohol on their property. Why she thought that dress would fly is beyond me. And why didnt her momma say something?

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