What did YOU do tonight?

cu97tiger · September 2013

I slow danced with my husband to a live band at an Eagles bar (think Elks Lodge). And fell more in love with him. What did you do tonight?

phira · September 2013

Fought with my fiance about future children's names. After being an asshole, he decided to go to bed instead of trying to resolve the fight. So I'm in a mood.

cu97tiger · September 2013

@phira - as long as your names did not involve apostrophes, hyphens or phonetic spellings (Renay vs. Renee), then I'm on your side in this one.

KeptInStitches · September 2013

Knitted on-campus trying to ignore the increasingly boisterous table-top gamers. Fought with my ladybits over appropriate behavior. Am currently in process of losing to ladybits.

phira · September 2013

@cu97tiger

It's a looong story, but basically, he comes from an Irish Catholic family, where boys are generally given a family name. He's always wanted to have a son with the major boy name in his family, which happens to be the same name as his brother, who is practically his best friend/twin.

I come from a Jewish family, where you're supposed to name your children after deceased relatives, and it's bad luck to name them after someone who's already alive. Tradition aside, I'm really not okay with naming a future son the same name as my future brother-in-law (and uncle and cousin and grandfather ...). Because of my traditions, it couldn't even be a middle name, but I told my fiance that I'd be willing to compromise and do it as a middle name.

He basically is insisting that it be a first name, and that I'm being disrespectful of the family traditions that are important to him. I can't seem to get him to understand that together, we're going to be a new family, and that my feelings, opinions, and personal tastes also matter. He's already said no to my boy-name ideas. Does it hurt my feelings that he immediately said, "Ugh I hate that name" about my favorite boy name (that is my great grandfather's name)? Hell yes.

Later, after we agreed to deal with it later, he asked if I'd ever considered giving a kid a really geeky name. We're Zelda fans, so he asked if I'd name a son Link. I said, I like the name Lincoln; I'd name a son that and call him "Link" as a nickname. He said he'd name a kid "Chandler" after the Friends character. My fiance, however, has a speech impediment, so he pronounces the name "Shandler," so I said that might not be the best name for a son. He then told me that he would WANT the name pronounced "Shandler" because then our son would learn how to deal with people making fun of his name.

Obviously, that was SO NOT okay with me (I clarified to make sure he was serious). But then he accused me of being willing to do the same thing by naming a boy Lincoln. Except Lincoln is an actual name, and I wouldn't be naming my kid Lincoln SO THAT my kid would be made fun of! I told him that I was really upset, and that I felt like he had set me up for that ("See, you'd do it too!"). He got angry and brooded for a while and then declared he was going to bed.

He's currently in the bedroom, but he's thrown up a couple times (he does that when we fight, it's out of his control). In therapy, he's complained that the way we fight makes him miserable, so I deliberately didn't do the things that I've done in the past that have made fights worse. So now I'm on the couch, really angry. Both because he's being an asshole and because now he's going to go on and on about how the way we fought--the way *I* fought with him--made him sick and depressed and anxious and miserable.

YAY WEEKEND.

bride2b71614 · September 2013

I ate cake and celebrated with my FI, made dinner, did a load of laundry, watched bride day on TLC (FI will never admit to watching it with me but he TOTALLY does), continued to knit my adorable nephew a max wolf suit from where the wild things are (Its almost completed thank goodness), put a hot water bottle on my tummy, planned out my to do list for tomorrow, and now I am headed to bed.

@Phira I'm sorry that you fought with your FI, that does not sound like a pleasant start to the weekend at all.

@keptinstitches, what project are you working on right now? Anything from Ravelry?

Peaseblossom55 · September 2013

I studied,.....

loves2shop4shoes · September 2013

I worked on a hat I'm knitting with a glass of wine and My Fair Wedding in the background. Then DH and I had some adult fun.

KeptInStitches · September 2013

@bride2b71614, nothing on Ravelry - it's a baby afghan pattern I wrote from a stitch dictionary I have, I haven't published it.

CLoGreenEyes · September 2013

@phira, yikes, what a crappy Friday night.

Hopefully he comes around, because you most certainly not fighting dirty and had some really good points.

@cu97tiger, that is super-cute! Glad you had a good evening.

I spent Friday night PMSing. Literally, if anyone had been home tonight, we would have been fighting, especially if it had been BF. I was mad at him for things he did literally over a year ago and has already apologized for! So I cried a bit, ate some ice cream, and read a book to try and redirect myself. Hopefully today is better, but if not, I'm going to have to call him and cancel our date night. I'm really bad at taking time for myself when I'm in a mood, but I need to start doing that. It's so not worth it to spend an evening fighting just because I feel like we *should* spend time together.

phira · September 2013

Thanks, everyone. The night ended up super miserable. He'd been drinking, and he never keeps track of how much he drinks. While he doesn't usually get drunk, once he goes to sleep, he does start to act "sleepy-drunk," which means he's hard to rouse and he tries to cuddle while we're sleeping (normally, he can't sleep if we're touching).

So last night, he ended up very sick and I couldn't really communicate with him, and at one point, I almost took him to the hospital so he could get fluids and be monitored while he slept. Eventually, I decided to sleep in bed with him to monitor him myself, and in the morning, he apologized for the fight last night. He's out with his brother right now, but we'll talk again when he gets home. I'm exhausted and feeling crappy myself, so I'm going to eat candy for lunch to make myself feel better. Woooo.

Hummingbird125 · September 2013

@phira - sorry about your fight - I think your FI's points were pretty ridiculous.

@cu97tiger - that's adorable! I don't think I've ever slow danced with BF before, lol.

Last night BF and I watched "Sicko". Now, I know Michael Moore has an obvious agenda and that many of his "facts" are exaggerated, misrepresented, or wrong, but it's still obvious that our healthcare system is a complete mess. I have a number of friends from countries with universal healthcare and trying to explain how the US system works is downright embarrassing. What really got to me was how even people WITH full coverage have to constantly argue with their insurance companies to get the treatment they need covered.

I'm in a minor battle with my insurance company right now, actually. I got a bill from a doctor charging me for a recent visit. I needed a prescription for BCP so I found a doctor (GP) in the area that accepts my insurance, and I went to get a general check-up (which I haven't had in a few years). For some reason, my insurance co said this wasn't covered, and the cost is $300!!! Luckily, the doctor knocked it down to $100, but it still is absolutely ridiculous. I have no idea why it wouldn't be covered. "Sicko" just made me hate insurance companies even more - their only goal is to increase profits.

psychbabe314 · September 2013

Last night I had a girl from my online course call me out and say that I was personally attacking her and making her feel "un-welcomed" because I disagreed with her about her definition of self-fulfilling prophecy. Telling yourself over and over again that you can do something is not self-fulfilling prophecy. It is positive think. I simple stated I disagreed, encouraged her to correct me if I was wrong, and posted a lecture from the University of Michigan website.

She responded that I was wrong and asked me to give more information to back myself up.

I did. I sent her back the website a 2nd time, along with our teacher's lecture notes, and the pages in our textbook that discusses both positive think and self-fulfilling prophecy.

She responded that my sources were not credible. Thus my explanation was wrong. Then she sent the private email. I responded with

"I apologize if you felt that I was attacking you. Unfortunately, that is usually how debates go. One person backs up their information. We are all entitled to our own opinions. But, in the future I will refrain from responding to your posts. Once again, I am sorry that you felt that way. It was unintentional."

No answer back yet. She seriously needs to grow up.

psychbabe314 · September 2013

Also, @cu97tiger that is so cute :-) It really sounds like things are going well! I can't wait to have that someday :-)

cu97tiger · September 2013

@phira - I'm so sorry to hear all of that. It's tough when you both have really valid reasons for wanting what you want. Kudos to you for being willing to compromise. I hope you guys find a way to discuss things like this without it turning into such a shitstorm!!

@hummingbird125 - Slow dancing with my husband is hands down one of my most favorite things to do. It was totally unexpected, too. We went to see a live band, and after about two hours, they played a slow song. A couple other couples got up to dance, and I told DH I'd buy him a shot if he'd dance with me. Then they played another slow song right after that, so I got two for the price of one. SCORE!

@psychbabe314 - She sounds like a delightful person! And I hope you have what we have someday, too!! It isn't all fun stuff (we had a hell of a discussion last night about house chores and finances) but when you find a good person, they are worth working for.

[Deleted User] · September 2013

@cu97tiger - That's so sweet! Those moments are so special!

I'm late on this but Friday FI and I hung out with my sister and her BF and then came home and went to bed. A pretty low key night.

CLoGreenEyes · September 2013

@aliciaharrison, yikes! How are his parents doing? Spending parts of your weekend at the hospital is never fun.

This weekend was a mixed bag for me. Saturday AM clinical was actually awesome, so this will be a good semester for that. BF and I just watched TV Saturday night since we were both exhausted from work/school this week.

Sunday I spent most of the day with my mom and brother, which was pretty nice. He got a new kitten (named Paw McCartney, hehe), so I snuggled with my new "nephew." My brother has also reached the part in his 12-step program where he makes amends, so we had an awkward conversation about that. It ended on a good note, though. I mean, I forgave him months ago for stealing and lying and generally being a jerk during that period of his life. The trust between us is still a work in progress, but for now I am happy with our relationship.

And, as always, the weekend ended with studying.

KeptInStitches · September 2013

@amapola14 Paw McCartney hehehehehehehe ... squee ...

It's Ellie-cat's birthday today! So after work I'm getting a can of wet food for her as a birthday treat. Maybe tuna-flavored. Or maybe tuna.

queenofhearts1728 · September 2013

Friday night I did nothing, because I'm a loser. lol I think I laid on the couch and watched cheesy 90s/early 2000s sitcoms on Amazon streaming

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