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Postponing Wedding

ShrimpeyShrimpey member
Eighth Anniversary First Comment
edited August 2013 in July 2014 Weddings
I wanted to see how common this is and if any of you have experienced postponing the wedding and how your family/friends have reacted.

My FH and I have decided to postpone our wedding that was scheduled for July 7 2014 for a 2015 wedding. The biggest reason that we are doing so is the finances (we are paying for the wedding ourselves) we do have one child and one dog together already. however, my FMIL is adamant that we should do a courthouse wedding next year with no reception which seems totally tacky to invite people & then not have some reception even if it's a small one thanking people for coming and enjoying your special day. I'm not saying that I need to have a huge wedding but I do want something nice & elegant.

And last but not least, my family seems to be convinced that this is kind of a bad sign. Like the fact that the engagement is not just going smoothly is a sign for future troubles ahead. Although I do have to say that in all due fairness I did have a sister that got married in 2012 and she postponed her wedding 3 times and still ended up getting married to the same guy in June 2012. I know we still seem far off from the date, but it doesn't seem that way to me, because time has already flown. And I must admit that I feel behind compared to many of you as I don't have a lot of the boxes ticked off on things that should already been done.

I would appreciate your wise thoughts here. TIA
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Re: Postponing Wedding

  • marylabmarylab member
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    I can feel you 100%.
    We started for July '12,then September and then again in '13,ending in '14.
    There's always a fear,what if not even this time?We are paying all of it by ourselves too,
    otherwise things would be different for sure,and personally we just didn't cut anything.
    The whole point is that we decided we want it the way we thought about it at the first place.
    And I'm not talking about something extravaganza,but it could be a city hall wedding or a 30 people one..we just never felt comfortable,and wanted a venue and some flowers,a 15k wedding which is just not happening due to work,house renovation etc.Of course peonies,3 tier cakes,chair covers or personalized invitations..are not the true meaning of marriage or of a wedding day.It's just about how you see that first page of your book of new life together,married.That's for me,and maybe it's silly,and over romantic,but what can you do with a mind?
    I've been stressed and cried not once,with this dream not sticking,I'm embarrassed to admit it,but I know in the end,it will be all worth it,living just a night like we dreamed of it.We are still young and thinking of kids,not having though,just a fur baby cat,so you have a beautiful moment together in your life already,your child.I have thought a couple of times,to leave it and just do it quickly in a city hall,but I think I would regret it,just because there's no way to get it back.
    I've ticked boxes and then got back to tile 1 not once,and I'm here if you want to vent,and I really hope and wish from my heart to you have a wedding you want and dreamed of with your husband.
    There's plenty of time for a July '14 wedding dear,actually even 3 months can make a wedding,changing Saturday to Thursday simply.Doing little things help too,as you have settled with how you want exactly your decor and colors,and before you realize the big day will be here.And you have a bonus of your own flower girl :)
    I want to wish you happy wedding planning,and I know how hard it is,but stay positive.





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  • tray769tray769 member
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    We postponed our wedding twice. I guess the 3rd time is a charm.
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  • 88beautymarked88beautymarked member
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    I just hopped over here from the June 14 board. We postponed it b/c we couldn't find a venue in our budget for our June date. 

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  • jaime85120jaime85120 member
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    I would say dont worry about what you've completed and what you haven't. As for cost there are ways to cut some costs with a little creativity. I say dont postpone for thoose two reasons alone. However in the end its your wedding and if its what you want to do then do it and dont Worry what other people think. The important people in your life will understand and if not a good way to cut costs is cutting the guest list j/k.
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