What are your thoughts on "Hatch My House"

Re: What are your thoughts on "Hatch My House"

• Avion22 member

  

  August 2012

  Tacky.  If guests want to give you money, they will just write you a check. Nobody needs to be told that.  Plus, these registry sites sometimes take a cut of the gift money in administration fees.

  
  

  If you don't need "stuff" then don't register, and decline offers of showers.   If people ask if/where you are regsitered, you can tell them that you don't need anything but are saving up for a house.  Keep in mind that there are some people who will give a physical gift no matter what, so if you don't register at all you might end up with a chilli pepper tea cozy.  It might not be a bad idea to set up a small registry of stuff you could use (new sheets, towels, etc) for those who want to give physical gifts.

  

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• hoffse member

  

  August 2012

  ^^ all of this.  Registering for cash is a waste of time and money, since most sites take a cut.  Besides, if I were a guest and I saw a "contribute to our first home" fund I would be even more offended, since most people pay for their downpayments themselves.  You should too.  If you want cash, make just a very small registry, and people will get the hint.  You can then use that money how you wish.  Making no registry stumps people like me who will never give cash - I always give a very nice crystal vase or platter when there is no registry, but I know that's not to everybody's tastes.  So do a small list for people like me and then be done with it.  No showers, etc.  You can use any cash you receive toward buying a home - but don't tell guests that up front.

  

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• AdeleDazeem member

  

  August 2012

  oh, ewww.

  
  

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• Ali092011 member

  

  August 2012

  I really think it's kind of offensive to people who saved to pay for their own down payment. No one is entitled to a house. Skip any kind of registry and that will be a hint that you want cash.

  

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• sparkles776 member

  

  August 2012

  definitely tacky and offensive to guests.

  

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• MNVegas member

  

  August 2012

  People already know cash is a great gift. They don't need you to ask them for it.  Sorry, but asking for cash is rude no matter how you try to disguise it. Cash registries are not only rude but they can also be deceitful to your guest. 

  Mary Click here for my bio!

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• ponteje member

  

  August 2012 edited August 2012

  Whoa, thanks for taking the time to respond but you're being presumptuous by assuming I have not already saved for my own house. I thought these forums were a friendly place to solicit feedback and exchange ideas on topics all things wedding especially for people who are very new to this entire industry such as myself. I was simply putting feelers out there regarding this website because I honestly had no idea how people felt.

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• laurenheathwagner member

  

  September 2013

  Holy inappropriate responses, Batman.
  
  I think it's a wonderful idea, and like you, I'd love an actual REVIEW of someone who'd used the site. We closed on our first home the same week of our engagement and we plan to move abroad with the military (if given the opportunity) in a few years. That being said- home renovations and upgrades are more important than that tacky silver place setting I'm guessing a few of these pleasant responders registered for (and never used). A home is a real investment- and for a guest at our wedding to be able to contribute rather than give us a miscellaneous gift we'd lose in a move is PHENOMENAL. This is a great possibility, if the site legitimately works well for its intended purpose. I hope you found a legitimate response somewhere- and that I do as well!

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• Simply Fated member

  

  September 2013

  ponteje said:

  Whoa, thanks for taking the time to respond but you're being presumptuous by assuming I have not already saved for my own house. I thought these forums were a friendly place to solicit feedback and exchange ideas on topics all things wedding especially for people who are very new to this entire industry such as myself. I was simply putting feelers out there regarding this website because I honestly had no idea how people felt.

  If a person already has the money saved up for the house, then why would that person choose a House Buying Registry?
  
  
  Regardless, I wouldn't contribute to this particular registry. It just doesn't make sense to me. I have my own home to buy, but I'm not getting married. Can I just randomly start asking my friends and family to buy a house for me?
  A wedding gift is just that... a gift. Mortgage and rent are your responsibilities.
  
  Just use what ever cash gifts people give you towards your mortgage. Not that ou need to because I think you already have the money saved up...? I don't know, your second post was very vague lol.
  
  
  As for the bolded part:
  Yes, yes you did. You asked us what we thought and we told you what we thought.
   I don't think anyone wanted to assume you and your fiance would use a site like this... but YOU said:
  Now this is something that would work really well for my fiance and I...
  If you already have the money saved up, how would it work well?
  

  
  

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• artbyallie mod

  

  September 2013

  Zombie thread again.

  

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• Simply Fated member

  

  September 2013

  artbyallie said:

  Zombie thread again.

  FFS
  
  I didn't catch it and I totally fell for it, even though it was resurrected just to call us out, as they all are.
  
  
  

  
  

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• NYCMercedes member

  

  September 2013

  Hey, @laurenheathwagner, those responses were legitimate. It's tacky to ask for money.

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• Maggie0829 member

  

  September 2013

  @KnotPorscha - and this is why all threads a year or more old need to be closed.  Because mainly newbie posters like to resurrect them just to state how horrible we all are.  And to think it is thought that only regulars can be bitchy.

  
  

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