I'm sure this sort of thing happens all the time, but I need some advice.
My fiance has two nieces (at the time of the wedding they will bel 14 & 16). Yesterday, his sister (the girls aunt) called my fiance crying that she was upset that I hadn't asked the two girls to be BRIDESMAIDS and then followed by send me an email. I have seven bridesmaids (my sister is my maid of honor), all of which I've known for 20+ years. When that was explained, it was suggested (by his sister) that the girls br Jr. bridesmaids and stand on his side (they want their family represented in the bridal party).
I do not want them to stand up at all. It's not that I don't like them, I love them to pieces, it's just not my vision. While I understand by "giving in" and doing this it may earn me some points with the family, I don't want to budge. We are having an adult (he and I will both be 41 when we get married) reception (with the exception of the nieces - and I'm letting them each bring a friend), no flower girl, no ring bearer and asked his brother in law to be an usher. My thought was that the girls would hand out flowers and bubbles for the ceremony (they can wear dresses that match one another) and his sisters would read poems about love, family and friends at the ceremony. We'd also ask the girls to help our guests find their table card and assist with the guest book.
I'm really hurt that his sister (the girls mother) didn't talk to me directly and had her sister call my fiance (and not me). Everyone continues to tell me to stand my ground, my groom says he never thought I'd ask them to be in the bridal party...I'd like to hear some opinions, please.
FYI, we're only TEN days into our engagement...is it going to get worse than this?