Would You Go?

arrippa · September 2013

I was invited to a wedding of a friend of a friend. The problem is that I can't stand her. My friend is begging me to go because she thinks it would be so much fun to all go together. Truthfully, I am surprised to be invited (which I think my friend arranged) and this friend of a friend is NOT invited to my wedding. I am tempted to say that we are busy but I promised my friend I would think about it. My FI is fine either way (he loves open bars and hanging with my friend and her husband but understands my feelings towards her). Would you suck it up and go for your friend or would you be "busy".

Ven&Radio · September 2013

Personally, I would not attend the wedding of someone I did not like.

ElcaB · September 2013

Ven&Radio said:

Personally, I would not attend the wedding of someone I did not like.

This.

KeptInStitches · September 2013

I wouldn't go. There are better ways to hang out with the other couple.

KytchynWitche · September 2013

I wouldn't go. It really just wouldn't be fair to the bride and groom. You can hang out with your friends another time.

WonderRed · September 2013

I wouldn't do it.

southernbelle0915 · September 2013

The reasons you have stated going are liking open bars and hanging out with your friends. The reasons you have stated not going are because you dislike the bride.

I side-eye the shit out of the reasons to attend. Wedding are to honor the bride and groom. If you don't like the bride and/or groom, don't attend.

Maggie0829 · September 2013

Why would you want to go to a wedding of someone you can't stand? Make plans to hang out with your friend once the wedding is over with.

arrippa · September 2013

I was planning on declining the invite but my friend had asked me to think about it. I did and I still think I will decline it. I was shocked to get an invite from them and wondered if it was an olive branch. Either way, I still can't stand her so I won't be attending. Thank you everyone for helping me realize what the right thing to do is.

AprilH81 · September 2013

I would respectfully decline and send a nice card. Weddings are too expensive to go just to hang out with your friends if you don't even like the bride and/or groom.