Okay, so I had no idea before reading all these boards how rude it was to have a gap. All weddings I've been to have had 2-3 hour gaps! I was going to have a several hour gap, but I don't want to be rude, so I would appreciate help figuring out my day. The latest I can have my ceremony at our church is noon(and can stay until 2:30 for visiting/snacks/pictures but OUT by 2:30.) We are set on having a evening reception, so that won't start until cocktail hour at five.
Would it be appropriate to only invite immediate family (parents, siblings, grandparents) to the ceremony itself, so that we don't have a hundred people trying to occupy themselves after ceremony-before cocktail hour? Or, would it be appropriate to rent a banquet room at the hotel we'll be staying (little over five minutes from reception venue) with snacks/soda for people to hang out? Or do I just need to find somewhere else to get married, so we can have a later ceremony and go right into the reception. I'd really hate to do that, as I've been attending this church over ten years before moving south, but I'd rather change ceremony venue than have an early reception.
Thanks, and I sincerely do want to do the right thing- I really appreciate your honest opinions!! I absolutely don't want to be a poor host. I was just ignorant as to how rude it was. As it is, I'm fighting my mother and FMIL on the open bar because they think it's ridiculous that guests can't pay for their own alcohol! (Don't worry. No way are any guests parting with any cash during my wedding.)