Dear Prudence,
My fiancé, "Greg," is estranged from his emotionally and verbally
abusive father. Recently, after our engagement, his father found me on
Facebook and sent me a message wanting contact information for Greg and
asking to meet me. When I brought this up to Greg, he reiterated that
his father was abusive and wants him to stay away from us and our future
children. I don't agree with cutting out family indefinitely and now
that we're getting married, I feel like I have more of a say in the
matter. Should I keep nudging Greg to eventually contact his father? And
what should I tell Greg's father if Greg keeps putting off contact?
—Wanting to Be a Go-Between