I have a guest list issue that has become way out of hand. My fiance and I from the start told our parents we were aiming for a smaller wedding of 100 guests max. We made our list and asked our parents for any requests (which I think was our first mistake, as we are paying for 100% of the wedding..). His mom wanted to invite her 3 sisters (and two of their husbands).
The first issue I had with this is that they never go to family gatherings and I have not met them. My fiance hasn't seen them in years and didn't even know which ones were married, or their last names.. We initially told her no in a polite way, saying we wanted to keep it intimate with people we are close to.
A few months later, unknown to me, my fiance and his mom had breakfast and she 'guilted' him into calling these aunts (who did not receive a save the date) and tell them we meant to send them a save the date. They all responded with "Ok we'll be there!" .... So once I found out I figured since they didn't receive a formal save the date, maybe there will still be a way around it.
Our wedding shower comes a month later - my fiance's aunt who hosted the shower, my fiance, and I were all under the impression that those aunts were not on the guest list for the shower. His mom was in charge of mailing the shower invites. My fiance and I were both surprised when two out of the three aunts showed up. The third also sent a gift card. Now I feel stuck with inviting strangers to my wedding! I've tossed around the idea of having my fiance call these aunts again and explain that since we moved halfway across the country just two months ago that our budget has changed and while we loved having them at the shower and we'd like them at the wedding, our budget will now only allow a smaller wedding with those closest to us. Am I just stuck inviting them now?