So my wedding came and went and there was only one big thing that was wrong that I can't quiet get over. My best friend of 8 years and her kids were to be in my Bridal Party. Shortly before the big day they moved out of state, and that was fine. Her and I were friends during my first marriage and she helped me pick myself up when that fell apart. She was my friend through the messy divorce and even after as I started dating and then found my fiance. She was and is a great friend. However when it came time to come up for the big day a couple days before she tells me her husband won't let her use his car because her car is making noise. So I say okay, I will come get you, I'll help pay for a train ticket, a bus ticket, hell even a flight, but I won't let you miss just because he is being a jerk. She says she'll get the car checked out and head up the next day. So all the next day I am texting her trying to make sure she is okay, I hear nothing till 5pm or so, and she is sobbing. He basically told her if she comes here to not bother coming home. I was devastated, he can be a jerk, but I never thought he would do this. I so thought we were all friends. So I tell her that I understand, I do, but I'm sad. Not only was a short a ring bearer, a flower girl, and a bridesmaid because of that jerk, but one of my best friends was missing and she waited 7 years for my princess wedding. She was almost as excited as I was about the whole thing. I feel bad for my friend, more so because now we are hours apart and I can just drive over there and say hey. I want to ship her all the stuff I bought for the kids, but I'm worried he will intercept it. I was thinking of putting a different address on it, but well I'll have to see what address I use. I just don't understand, did I do something to piss him off? I know she didn't, she does everything for him and those kids. I was so pissed at him when I found out and I'm still pissed, but I'm also sad that I lost that moment because he chose to be so selfish. I love my friend and I won't stop being friends with her because he decided to be a total jerk. It's just one of those things I guess. It didn't ruin the big day, but it was a little different without her and the kids there.