Appropriate to contact guests to make sure invites were r'cd?

Re: Appropriate to contact guests to make sure invites were r'cd?

• southernbelle0915 mod

  

  September 2013

  dramamonkey said:

  I've had a small handful of family members (like 3 of 100 invitations sent) not receive their wedding invitations! 

  
  

  When is it appropriate (if ever) to check in with people just to make sure they actually GOT the invitation? 

  If you think there's a huge problem with your invitations, you could call/email people to ask if they received it. If you think it's just a few that may have been addressed wrong, etc. I'd just plan to follow up with everyone after the RSVP deadline.

  *********************************************************************************

  
  

  

  Report1 Reply
• Maggie0829 member

  

  September 2013

  Three missing invites out of 100 is not enough for it to be worry.  Unless a large amount have gone missing (like 25 or more) then I would just leave it alone.

  
  

  Report2 Reply
• AprilH81 member

  

  September 2013

  Generally speaking I would wait until the RSVP date passes before contacting anyone.  You can try to bring it up in casual conversation where appropriate but otherwise don't stress too much.

  

  Report0 Reply
• MyNameIsNot member

  

  September 2013 edited September 2013

  Wait until the RSVP date passes and call them.

  
  

  If there's anyone who would need to travel and wouldn't otherwise know the date, and you have reason to believe their invitation was affected, call them now.  

  Report2 Reply
• Jen4948 member

  

  September 2013

  I'd only do this after the RSVP date.  Before then, you never know-the invitation may well be on the way.
  

  Report0 Reply
• mbrooke2008 member

  

  September 2013

  MyNameIsNot said:

  Wait until the RSVP date passes and call them.

  
  

  If there's anyone who would need to travel and wouldn't otherwise know the date, and you have reason to believe their invitation was affected, call them now.  

  I agree. However, this morning ( 15 days to our wedding) my future mother in law informed me that her best friend never received his wedding invitation! I think our total at this point, that we know of, is 15 invitations that were not received. We also didn't receive some of the RSVPs that people swear they sent. It's the postal service, things are bound to get lost. Sometimes people move and forget to update/notify you, I think when the RSVPs are meant to be in, it is okay to reach out to people. My fear was that people (close friends, family) would think they hadn't been invited and that we were snubbing them.
  

  

  Report0 Reply
• photokitty mod

  

  September 2013

  mbrooke2008 said:

  I agree. However, this morning ( 15 days to our wedding) my future mother in law informed me that her best friend never received his wedding invitation! I think our total at this point, that we know of, is 15 invitations that were not received. We also didn't receive some of the RSVPs that people swear they sent. It's the postal service, things are bound to get lost. Sometimes people move and forget to update/notify you, I think when the RSVPs are meant to be in, it is okay to reach out to people. My fear was that people (close friends, family) would think they hadn't been invited and that we were snubbing them.
  

  That sucks! I mailed mine from a different post office bc our branch had an issue with subs hiding mail and not delivering it! So our neighborhood had lots of mail not going out and coming in. Luckily my rsvps seemed to arrive for the most part.

  
  

  OP, I would bring it up in conversation as possible and encourage the mothers to do the same. Bc I would be worried about snubbing people and then not knowing until 14 days before the wedding - when I set my RSVP deadline - and them not being able to come on such short notice.

  GL!

  ~xoxo~

  
  

  Report0 Reply