Due to my pending offspring, I follow a "birth club" forum on a different site that is not TB.
Here's the story one girl posted:
Originally they were planning a civil ceremony at the courthouse (no guests), but their family really wanted to be present. So the poster and her FI agreed to get married at their church. And invite guests (immediate family on both sides). They are "too poor" to host a reception, so they wanted everyone to meet up at a restaurant after the ceremony and pay for their own meals. My mind was blown just at that. Of course, the OP said her guests were commenting that it's rude to do that.
But then EVERYONE on the forum commenting on her post called her guests "selfish" for expecting to be fed, wanting a free meal, etc, etc. "It's your day...if they don't want to pay they don't have to come" "I would never expect a bride and groom to thank me for coming" "The guests should simply feel honored you invited them"
Holy shit.
Then I googled "Wedding ceremony, no reception" and TONS of people actually do this.
I'm almost ready to give up hope.
Re: Is this real life? Wedding ceremony, no reception trend...
Previously Alaynajuliana
I was honestly the ONLY person on the thread to say something contrary to "It's your day, honey!"
I'm amazed that the poster and her FI agreed to invite guests and it never even remotely crossed their minds to host the guests for a meal or some appetizers and cake.
There's really no proper way to have no reception when you have any guests at your ceremony. A home-baked cake and a few bottles of soda or juice is cheap as hell. There's no excuse for this.
This made me giggle. I picture her saying this like fez.
I think the offspring and the question are unrelated. The poster just mentioned that she saw this on another baby related site...
I didn't take it as the bride herself had to be pregnant, she could just be on the moms board- maybe an older child? or, maybe that's why they are broke?
Last time I checked, pregnancies can happen unexpectedly and (while I admit the bride is being tacky) not having money to pay for guests food =/= too poor to be a loving parent.
Also, I didn't realize that the bride, groom, and most other people were changing into more casual clothes before the dinner, so I showed up in a dress and felt really out of place.
Edited for auto correct fail.