Mix couple wedding tips

rebekahpenrod · September 2013

Would live to hear how other ladies are doing things!

rebekahpenrod · September 2013

Well, meant love not live. We are a mix couple and I see so few pics/posts regarding.

manateehugger · September 2013

I guess we are technically a mixed couple....

Um, we are just planning our wedding as anyone else would. I don't understand what you're asking here.

melbelleup · September 2013

We're not a mix couple, but I would imagine it's the same for any couple regardless.

kmmssg · September 2013

I'm confused too. DD was once engaged as part of a mixed couple and it didn't work out. She is engaged again (non mixed couple) and we aren't doing anything any different in wedding planning.

ShesSoCold · September 2013

Yeah, this is't 1930. I would imagine you would proceed as anyone else would.

misshart00 · September 2013

What kind of tips are you looking for?

ElcaB · September 2013

I thought every couple was a mix...a mix of two people.

If you want tips on wedding planning, we can help you. Being a "mixed couple" has nothing to do with it.

nsweare · September 2013

Are you looking for ways to incorporate your different cultural traditions into your wedding? I'm not part of a mixed couple so I can't really answer that, but if it's what you're asking there may be ladies here who can help.

Teddy917 · September 2013

What do you mean by "mixed couple"?

itzMS · September 2013

I would say a good majority of couples are mixed religions, cultures, beliefs, upbringings.

Do you think we all marry our clones?

I'm confused.

OliveOilsMom · September 2013

My friend is currently engaged and planning her wedding. They are a mixed couple. As far as I can tell, they are planning the wedding just how H & I planned ours.

harper0813 · September 2013

Um, you are free to vote, own property and marry each other - pretty sure you can do whatever you want. As is standard, you can implement parts of your cultures if you are very in tube with your heritages, like jumping the broom or wearing an Áo dài. It's really up to you.

southernbelle0915 · September 2013

I don't know if you're talking about mixed race couple. If so, I would highlight your love and things you two enjoy together - not your races and/or differences.

If you want to incorporate elements from your respective cultures and/or regions (if they're different), consider doing it with your food or decor. Like traditional dishes, colors or symbols.

misshart00 · September 2013

OP, come back!

JellyBean52513 · September 2013

The best advice I can give you is to find out what is important to your FI and his family and how to integrate those things with what's important to you and your family. If by "mixed" you mean interracial, then realize that some races characterize themselves by their culture and/or religion, so taking those factors into account as you blend your families and lives together will be helpful.

For example, my ex-FI was from Ghana and while his family holds strongly to their African roots & culture, he insisted on not wanting to incorporate anything "too African" because he identifies as American. My current SO is Cape Verdean and in his family, every single child is brought to every single event/family gathering. They are extremely family-oriented and if we get engaged, we will plan to afford every child because to exclude them all would be offensive to his family's culture.

thelastdreamer · September 2013

I legitimately didn't know you meant mixed as in race until reading PP comments. That IS what you meant, right?

For some reason I thought you were talking about alcohol.

If it's the former, plan like anyone else would. It's 2013, unless your guests are crazy, pretty sure nobody should care.

If it's the latter, mix and drink! The more the better! Just make sure it's free.

daveANDkristen · September 2013

rebekahpenrod please do come back so we can help you. You also may want to create a new account with a different username if this is your full name. It's generally not a good idea to use your full name on the internet, there are a lot of crazies

Liatris2010 · September 2013

Mix of what?

Are you looking for things to help mix couples up? Couples should always be seated together, so no, don't mix them. Wouldn't you be upset if you and your SO were sat apart?

Blue_Bird · September 2013

I am part of a "mix" couple. We didn't have any special cultural traditions in either of our families, so combining them wasn't an issue. When my cousin married, they jumped the broom and passed out little decorated brooms to the guests as favors. Honestly, since neither of us were particularly connected to either of our heritages (and we, as most people I know come from several), we didn't incorporate anything special. We compromised on music, and that's about it.

If the two of you ave special cultural traditions you'd like to include, I suggest asking your families for advice. Perhaps there is a special dish they always serve at weddings. If there's a special prayer, you could include that. I've seen Native American traditions included in a traditional "White" wedding. I've also seen officiants translate vows for Spanish-speaking guests. Talk to your fiance and see what he'd like to do. Congratulations, and good luck.

OpenHeart0117 · September 2013

There is actually another discussion board under the Cultural & Theme Tab for "Interracial Weddings" I am sure that you can find some information there that you can relate to or may address any concerns or issues you may have. I know that sometimes not everyone in interracial relationships have the full support of one or both families & sometimes there are issues & situations that need to be navigated during wedding planning. I am sure you could benefit from the advice or experience of those who may be in situations you can relate to.

Good luck with your planning & Congrats !