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Another school poll

Imagine that your 12 year old kid comes home and is excited to tell you that his name got announced over the loudspeaker today in a list of kids being invited to a special club. You have to be invited to join this club so he is flattered like we won a prize. He also has a permission slip for you to sign for this club allowing the kid to stay after school one a week for the club, but no info about what it is. Your kid doesn't know any details either.

So you look it up on the school website and see that it is a club for weird kids who don't have friends. You know your kid is a little awkward but he plays with other kids okay as far as you know. He has never complained about a lack of friends.

Are you offended that you kid got called out on the loudspeaker for this? Or glad that maybe your kid will maybe make some friends in the new club? Somewhere in between?

Also, should you tell your kid what the club really is before someone else tells him of he figures it out on his own?
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Re: Another school poll

  • Meh.  Let the kid fly their "freak" flag and move on.  If the kid doesn't care, I wouldn't either.
  • This is confusing and I have many questions.

    But in general, if kid went and liked it, I wouldn't have any issues with kid going.  
  • I'd let the kid go and give it a whirl.  But I'm seriously squishy face at a school thinking this is acceptable.

  • I would probably already know that my kid was a bit quirky, but would be excited that he is excited about the group. I would probably call the counselor to get more details and to see what the agenda of the group was.

    I would let the group leader explain the group to the kids.

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  • Most of my groups have to do with grades, but I did do a girls group a few times and tried to have a mix of some shy girls and more outspoken ones.

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  • I'm pretty sure this was an episode of The Middle, where Brick has his weird kid group where they learn social skills. 

    If the kid is clueless, thank god for that.  Hopefully he'll be excited and get something out of it.  But awkward to announce this over the PA at school, instead of a letter sent home.

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  • I don't think I'd be happy about this, but I'm not sure I understand.  What's the background on this?
  • this was an episode of Daria. 
  • Yeah, I'd be peeved. If my kid is having issues with social skills or something, I'd rather the teacher come to me and say "hey, your kid is doing well academically but they seem to be having issues socially" and let us address it at home before deciding they need to make a club for the shy kids. I was pretty shy and didn't have many friends in elementary school because we moved frequently. But I wasn't stupid and probably would have figured out after the first meeting that this was a club for undesirables which would have made me feel even more shitty.
  • This happened to my nephew A few weeks ago. My sister was a little annoyed at the loudspeaker announcement. She thinks that it put a label on him in a new school. She would have preferred a letter. Nephew wanted to go, so she gladly let him. Sister thought maybe there would be some socialization skills taught or maybe just some bonding activities between the misfits. But so far they just do homework quietly in the library. Nephew still seems to be cool with it, though, even after his older sister rudely told him that the club was for weird kids. And his twin brother is jealous that he didn't get invited.
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  • Yeah, I'd be pissed about how the whole thing was handled.  
  • That's what I was confused about.  If the club is labeled, "for weird kids" by the other kids, I'm not sure how much good it's doing any of those kids.  And IDK why over the loudspeaker would be necessary for anything like that in general.
  • Just because the kids say that it's for weird kids doesn't make it true.
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  • Nephew is used to his sister saying rude things, so he knows to take that with a grain of salt. I agree that the loudspeaker was a bad idea. "Attention students, here is a list of people with no friends:..." Not cool.
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  • NOLA, I thought of that too.  That's why I was confused by it all.  It would seem that if the school is announcing over the loudspeaker, it should be an honor, so are the other kids jealous and that's what makes it for the weird kids?

    That's why I went with, if kid likes it, do it.
  • First of all, I would talk with the head of this group.  I would wonder why I was not consulted with before my child's name was announced on the big speaker to be part of this.  However, I would probably let my kid go since he/she wanted to.  But I would give him/her my cell phone to call if he/she wants to come home or if anything goes wrong.
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