Vent - Late cancels

kiraregnier · September 2013

So I am just over 2 weeks away from my destination wedding in Vegas and I just had 2 more people cancel on me. In the last 3 weeks 6 people cancelled. I had my RSVP deadline in June so that this sort of thing didn't happen. I have a contract minimum to meet for my reception and now with these 6 people not coming I have to pay an extra $700. I am trying really hard not to get upset but I am about to explode! Am I just overreacting? Anyone else have a similar situation?

missmo14 · September 2013

Kira that just plain sucks! I know this sounds terrible but I really only consider an RSVP when I know that they have booked flights etc. Even then things happen outside of their control.

We need at least 48 guests to meet Maggianos minimum. My plan B if guests fold is to go with a more premium menu so that the money isnt 'wasted'. Is there anyway you could do that at all? Ie a more premium bar, specialty champagne etc.

kiraregnier · September 2013

Yeah I am going to see if I can add on a snack at midnight or something. We are already having an open bar and offering the most expensive menu so that's not an option. The last 2 to cancel were supposed to be driving down to Vegas and they had booked their hotel months ago so I didn't think they would cancel. Thankfully everyone else coming HAS booked their trip. My fiance said that we need to focus on the people that ARE coming to Vegas as opposed to the ones who aren't. I just need to keep my perspective. Sometimes you just need to vent

ktbabe530 · September 2013

I'm so sorry you are having to deal with this so close to your date. I would be upset too. We haven't done our invites yet, but this is what I'm worried about!

Like you and missmo said, hopefully can put the money towards an add-on so it's not a total waste!

J9lawrence · September 2013

I feel your pain! My biggest frustration was guests not bothering to RSVP. We are having less than we are expecting too so we upgraded with a slider station for later on in the evening so we could meet our minimum. The guests that are coming are really going to appreciated it!

vegasgroom · September 2013

I hate that sh*t too. We had a couple people cancel in the last week, fortunately with legit excuses, but one person cancelled, VIA FACEBOOK, 24 hours from wedding day. Not friends with that person anymore, in real life lol.

jaime85120 · September 2013

Not trying to be devils advocate but last year me and the fi went to his sisters wedding in De. Drove From az. We were going to spend a couple nights in NJ and then on to de. Long story short sandy hit two days before we left. We had to stay with his friends in nj cause our hotel didn't have power till the day we left nj. Im sure his sister had a few last minute cancels. Point is sometimes things come up so dont let the pressure of event planning and menu choices cloud things for you

vegasgroom · September 2013

I have no problem with people cancelling last minute for legit reasons; the person who cancelled via facebook was coming from the Cayman Islands and never even bought her ticket; apparently there was a magic price point she would have purchased it at that was never reached.

kiraregnier · September 2013

Yeah I'm all for people cancelling for legit reasons. My people had really sucky excuses. Only one of the couples who cancelled on us had a legit reason. The other two said they couldn't afford it. I would think you would know earlier than 2 weeks before the wedding if you can afford to go or not. That's again why I had the RSVP date in June so that I would be able to invite other people and give them enough notice as well. In the case of a natural disaster they would be forgiven

jaime85120 · September 2013

I agree most people know about a month out if they cant afford it

CaminoBride · September 2013

Ugh! I am dealing with this right now. We are two weeks away and have had 4 people cancel within the past 3 days. We are coming from the east coast and apparently they didn't realize airline ticket prices would go up so high and now they cannot afford to go. So basically, they never booked! It's really hard not to be upset especially when you have signed off on everything and submitted payments.

I am trying really hard to focus on what everything is really about (marrying my best friend) but that doesn't make this any less frustrating. Sometimes it's good to vent and then begin to move on. On that day, the only people who will matter are those people who show up. I am trying to keep that in mind when I think about how seriously annoyed I am about the cancellations.

AllyIdo · September 2013

Big difference between a natural disaster and "I can't afford it/take time off, just realized it now after I already RSVPed yes"

whosaidsam · September 2013

I'm going through the opposite right now! Quite a few people have decided they are coming now when they originally said they couldn't.

Thankfully my reception venue doesn't need a final guest count and payment until 2 weeks before, and we didn't do a group booking or anything. Even though we are having a pretty casual wedding compared to others, its still super annoying when guests don't respect an RSVP request!

I have "confirmed" and "unconfirmed" guest lists for people who have and haven't booked yet.

wrigleyville · September 2013

To be fair, having an RSVP date that early can be worse than having an RSVP date at the "normal" cut-off. Some people don't know their final plans that far in advance. I have a few friends who won't be able to book flights until this week or next because they don't have their work schedules yet. My FI can never answer RSVPs more than 6-8 weeks in advance because of the nature of his job.

So, some people will say "yes" to hold their place and then cancel before the caterer needs the final numbers (usually a few days before the wedding). I'd be upset, but at least they DID do the courteous thing and let you know two weeks ahead of time instead of the day before when you're already locked into those numbers.

stoiic25 · September 2013

I just received a 2 cancellations today and our wedding is in 2 weeks, but like Wrigley said at least they told me before final numbers had to be in and not 2 days before the wedding. I understand life happens and I choose not to let anything else stress me out, especially this, it just means 2 less people that get to party.

vegasgroom · September 2013

Yep, anyone that cancels going to a vegas wedding simply doesn't enjoy partying. :-)

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