I take back the autopilot piece - planning is on autopilot - dealing with dumb sh** drama is not.
This is kind of a two part question - one part general - one part more specific.
I gave all of my single guests the option to bring a guest to my wedding. Some have responded with names for those guests - others have just replied with "2" Sally Doe and Guest. Do you think it is rude to follow-up with those who did not provide a name a few days before the date I have to send a final number to my venue and request the name of the individual they are bringing? The date I need to provide a final count is a week before our wedding. If it is - I won't do it - but I thought I'd ask.
Second more specific to my circumstances - one of my single friends, D, did not like my FI based on an issue that took place five years ago between FI and an old high school acquaintance of D and I - we will call him G.
This issue came up during this whole planning process - D & I discussed it. I believe things are cleared up. Fast forward a few months to today - when I get a text message from her saying that she is planning to send her RSVP in and she was wondering if she had to put a name or if she could just put "and Guest." I replied by saying "and guest" is fine (that is what prompted my first question). She replied back with a response that suggested he is better off nameless anyway. The very first thing that popped in my head - was the worry that she would bring G. I believe that it is an irrational fear - but if it is rude to ask those who replied with "and guest" a name for their intended guest - is it inappropriate for me to ask her not to bring G based on the history?