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1 flower girl and 3 ring bearers...HELP!

Sembree1Sembree1 member
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We will be having my 5 year old as our flower girl, no issue there. We will be having 3 ring bearers though. My 3 year old nephew, and FI 4 year old nephew and 10 month old nephew. We are planning on the 10 month old being pulled in a wagon. Suggestions for making it work? Who should carry the pillow or should there be one? I'm lost as to what to do. Thanks:)
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Re: 1 flower girl and 3 ring bearers...HELP!

  • doeydodoeydo member
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    The 10 month old doesn't need to have the title of "ring bearer".  I suggest just him getting a fancy outfit, staying with his mother or father during the ceremony, and you taking some pictures without calling him a ring bearer.  I guess you could have the two older boys as ring bearers and if you want and the older one could carry the pillow if you want.
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  • Sembree1Sembree1 member
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    We have a very high sided wagon and it will have him almost "packed in". It is very important to FI that the younger nephews are involved in some way.
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  • JoanE2012JoanE2012 member
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    Not everyone has to be involved.   Just attending the wedding is an honor.  And it's not like the 10 month old is going to be mad that he didn't ride down the aisle in the wagon.  

    Seriously, it sounds like a disaster waiting to happen.  I'd skip having him and just have the 2 other boys walk down the aisle.
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  • doeydodoeydo member
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    He isn't really "bearing" the rings in any way.  If anything, whoever is pulling him in the wagon is "bearing" him....
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  • NYCMercedesNYCMercedes member
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    You're asking for suggestions to make it work. It doesn't matter what we suggest as that little guy is a wild card. You're shooting craps even to expect it to work for a three and a four year old. The children's parents are the authorities on their kids, so I suggest you ask them.
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  • Dreamergirl8812Dreamergirl8812 member
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    Sembree1 said:
    We have a very high sided wagon and it will have him almost "packed in". It is very important to FI that the younger nephews are involved in some way.
    Your nephew is not a prop. I know you and your FI don't think of him that way; if I thought you did I wouldn't bother giving you advice. But if you're choosing to play this wildcard, as @NYCMercedes so aptly put it, you're doing it for the cute factor. It's just not worth it.

    Your nephews will be a huge part of the day without a small child pulling a smaller child in a wagon (which is really freakin cute by the way, but should only be done under the supervision of a professional... wagon puller, or something).

    So have the 2 ring bearers, and get lots of good pictures of your youngest nephew.





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  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    The 10-month old will not remember the ceremony, and I think it's dangerous for the 3 and 4-year olds to pull him in a wagon.  Just have the older 3 children in the ceremony and include the 10-month old in photos with your family.
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  • artbyallieartbyallie mod
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    We have a very high sided wagon and it will have him almost "packed in". It is very important to FI that the younger nephews are involved in some way.

    But that doesn't 'involve' him at all. It treats him like some sort of doll. Kids that are not mobile enough on their own to make it down the aisle should not be in weddings. Full stop. And I am speaking as someone who was in pictures but not actually in the wedding for my own aunt's first wedding. I was maybe 18 months or so, I think. I had a dress that matched my mom (MOH) but I was not a flower girl or anything. Because I was too little to do anything except be held in a couple pictures, so that's what they did.
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  • Maggie0829Maggie0829 member
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    The 10-month old will not remember the ceremony, and I think it's dangerous for the 3 and 4-year olds to pull him in a wagon.  Just have the older 3 children in the ceremony and include the 10-month old in photos with your family.
    This. You want to include him for you not for him. At 10 months he has no idea what the hell is going on that day let alone that he has a role in your wedding. You can ask his parents to dress him up in a cute suit or whatever and then just take some pictures with him.

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  • southernbelle0915southernbelle0915 mod
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    Personally, I would not involve the 10-month old. He's way too young. I know you're doing it so that all the nephews are involved, but it doesn't really make sense, you know? Include him in WP photos if you want, but I think a baby in a wagon as part of the processional is a bit forced. 

    If you are hell-bent on including him, I think it's safer if an adult pulls the wagon. I don't really have any suggestions on what he could contribute because he's 10 months old and can't really understand having a role in a wedding. KWIM?
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  • ViczaesarViczaesar member
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    This plan has disaster written all over it.



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  • Rebl90Rebl90 member
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    You can go with the wagon, but I've been to a few weddings when an adult had to step in at the last minute to soothe a fussy baby in the wagon or even help pull the wagon.  If you're not worried about it, go for it.

    However, my FI's cousin got married a few weeks ago and decided to include all of her nieces and nephews, even the 6 month old. They skipped the wagon and dressed him in a little tux and the MOB carried him down the aisle when she was escorted and then passed him on to another family member who took him to the back. It was very adorable and there was no struggle with younger ones carrying anything or pulling a wagon. Just a suggestion! 

    Good Luck!! :)
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  • PrettyGirlLostPrettyGirlLost member
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    Sembree1 said:
    We will be having my 5 year old as our flower girl, no issue there. We will be having 3 ring bearers though. My 3 year old nephew, and FI 4 year old nephew and 10 month old nephew. We are planning on the 10 month old being pulled in a wagon. Suggestions for making it work? Who should carry the pillow or should there be one? I'm lost as to what to do. Thanks:)
    Does your venue even allow this?  I ask because many do not for liability reasons.

    Regardless, I wouldn't have the 10 month old participate. . . he's just going to look like a prop, which I know is not your intention.  Your other nephews might be a bit young too, but as long as you are ok with the possibility that they may not make it down the aisle on your wedding day, I think it is fine. 

    Maybe they both could have a pillow and one carry your ring and the other your FI's ring?  ETA: And by rings I mean prop rings, not your actual rings.  Give those to your Best Man/MOH.

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  • SomethingBeautiful08SomethingBeautiful08 member
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    With kids that young, it is best to have plan A, B, C and D.  I'm a little weary of the wagon with a 10 month old but if the parents are ok, I'm ok.  As far as rings, you can have one or both carry something that could hold a ring, pillows are traditional, but I've seen cute boxes, buckets etc.  My 18 mo nephew was  our ring bearer and I was in regular contact with his mom to figure out the best option for what he should carry.  We ended up going with a small tin bucket I got at the hardware store and dressed up with some purple ribbon.  He liked carrying buckets at the time and it ended up being adorable.  No one noticed and / or cared that it was empty and the BM had our rings.

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  • doeydodoeydo member
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    edit: post fail on my part.  carry on.
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  • MyNameIsNotMyNameIsNot member
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    Honestly, you're going to have enough trouble getting a 3 and 4 year old to walk up the aisle at all.  Asking them to pull a baby in a wagon is not going to work out.  Scrap the wagon and plan to have an adult available to escort the two little boys.  3 and 4 are awfully young to be in a wedding themselves.  

    Dress the baby up and take a lot of photos with him and the other nephews.  
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