I'm not real familiar with etiquette but I'd like some direction. My fiance and I are getting married in Hawaii, just us, to avoid the whole wedding drama. We're having a post-wedding party a few months after, very casual, to celebrate with friends and family. My aunt and my best friend want to throw me a shower, which I'm kind of torn on. Can that even be done? Can I have a shower if I'm not doing the whole traditional wedding? And, when do I have it? After I'm married but before the party? Before all of it? I'm just really confused on all of it.