No kids at a Hawaii wedding?

Re: No kids at a Hawaii wedding?

• smalfrie19 member

  

  October 2013

  WOW! I just have no words..hopefully other knotties have some advice.

  

  
  

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• OliveOilsMom member

  

  October 2013

  
  

  rieria said:

  We were invited for a Hawaii wedding in Dec. from mainland. The couple lives in Hawaii.  Few months ago, we are told that the kids are allowed at the wedding so we reserved the airplace tickets, costed us $3000+.  Yesterday, we received an offical invitation from them, and it states they have reserved 2 seats for us.  We were shocked.  What about our two kids???   Is it normal?  I would like to hear what you all think...

  While it is perfectly fine to have child free wedding, I think the B&G did a big injustice to you by previously saying that kids were allowed.  Are you sure you heard them correctly?  I would probably call for clarification saying that previously you said kids were allowed and on that assumption, you booked tickets for all of your family.  And now you are confused by the current invitation.  See what they say.  I'm sorry they put you in this situation.
  

  

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• Dreamergirl8812 member

  

  October 2013

  That's really shitty. There is nothing wrong with a child-free wedding but to tell you they could come and then renege is... shitty. I would call to clarify before getting upset. Some people are clueless and don't put the kids on the invite, even though they are invited. Also, make absolutely sure that they did say the kids were invited. Any chance they said it via email or facebook?
  
  If this really screws you over, bring the kids to Hawaii and hire a babysitter the night of. Or, just don't go to the wedding, and have a wonderful Hawaiian vacation with the whole family.
  

  
  
  
  

  
  
  
  
  

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• doeydo member

  

  October 2013

  rieria said:

  We were invited for a Hawaii wedding in Dec. from mainland. The couple lives in Hawaii.  Few months ago, we are told that the kids are allowed at the wedding so we reserved the airplace tickets, costed us $3000+.  Yesterday, we received an offical invitation from them, and it states they have reserved 2 seats for us.  We were shocked.  What about our two kids???   Is it normal?  I would like to hear what you all think...

  Did the bride and/or groom say kids were okay and that yours could come?  

  
  

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• WonderRed member

  

  October 2013

  This is total crap.  I am so sorry.
  

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• mommapizano member

  

  October 2013

  This is such a bummer! Were they clear that your kids were invited? I would call them to clarify for sure. Also, if they are not invited, I would consider hiring a babysitter for the night. You can still have an awesome family vacation and not put all that money to waste. 

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• cowgirl8238 member

  

  October 2013

  scribe95 said:

  If they for some reason don't immediately apologize and clarify I would ask for a few babysitter recommendations. You have spent the money and Hawaii is amazing (my friends say, I would give anything to do). I would still have a fun time with your family and just give a few hours to the wedding before getting back to the hotel.
  

  
  This is a good alternative if you are comfortable leaving your children with a sitter.  I would make certain with the couple first if children are included and then discuss your travel arrangements. They might have made a mistake on the invites or they might allow the children if they previously stated they were allowed.  Worst comes to worst you can skip the wedding and just party in Hawaii with your family.

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• SJM7538 member

  

  October 2013 edited October 2013

  OP can you clarify if you were told by the couple directly that your kids were invited? To me it's Two very different scenarios. If the couple told you themselves then I would call, explain the situation and get clarification. If this is the case then it is rude on their part.

   

  If it was something you heard through family or the grapevine then it's different. If this is the case then to be honest you should have confirmed with the Couple before booking plane tickets.

   

  We have very few children attending the wedding, the ones in our wedding party and then my ten year old cousin. My older cousins heard through family that my younger cousin was invited and just assumed their kids were invited because they are all around the same age. Needless to say when the received their invitations and the children weren't included they weren't too happy.  Thats why I say they are very different scenarios

   

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• harper0813 member

  

  October 2013

  Does the hotel offer a babysitting service? A hotel y family frequented in Florida did and my brother and I used to BEG my parents to go on a date night so that we could to the "babysitter" - a supervised room full of free video games! It was the best.
  
  If the bride or groom told you themselves that your kids were invited, I think it would be fine to call and clarify politely. If they have changed their mind (which is rude), either cancel your trip or just to for a family vacation and skip the wedding.

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• grumbledore member

  

  October 2013

  mrspizanotobe said:

  This is such a bummer! Were they clear that your kids were invited? I would call them to clarify for sure. Also, if they are not invited, I would consider hiring a babysitter for the night. You can still have an awesome family vacation and not put all that money to waste. 

  This, although it's a little shitty to have to hire a sitter in a completely unfamiliar place who you've never met before.  Maybe the hotel has someone they recommend to guests?  

  
  

  I would follow up with the couple first to see if it was a mistake.

  
  

  

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• Maggie0829 member

  

  October 2013

  I am waiting to give any advice until OP comes back and clarifies whether the B&G told them that kids were welcomed or if they heard it from someone else.

  
  

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