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Uneven Bridal Party

carly324carly324 member
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We are in the midst of planning our September 2014 wedding.  The easiest decision for me so far has been selecting my bridal party.  I have my matron of honor and 4 bridesmaids.  He has his best man and 3 groomsmen.. but 4 more guys whom he considers his close friends.  He is trying to balance the wedding party but i told him I do NOT care about that.  I just want him to have his closest friends/family and for him it is a total of 7 guys.  It is totally ok to not be balanced... right? So one lucky girls gets 2 guys... 
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  • itzMSitzMS member
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    carly324 said:
    We are in the midst of planning our September 2014 wedding.  The easiest decision for me so far has been selecting my bridal party.  I have my matron of honor and 4 bridesmaids.  He has his best man and 3 groomsmen.. but 4 more guys whom he considers his close friends.  He is trying to balance the wedding party but i told him I do NOT care about that.  I just want him to have his closest friends/family and for him it is a total of 7 guys.  It is totally ok to not be balanced... right? So one lucky girls gets 2 guys... 

    Yep. Totally fine.

    Also, there is no requirement that the BP must walk together. The guys can all already be standing at the front...the entire BP can process single file...whatever you would like.

    I was in a wedding as one of 5 bridesmaids and there were 3 groomsmen.

    The other bridesmaid and I linked arms and walked together. It was fun.


     

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  • KeptInStitchesKeptInStitches member
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    Exactly! Totally fine to have uneven sides. Stick to your guns and don't add anyone out of pressure to make the sides even.
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  • Maggie0829Maggie0829 member
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    We had an uneven wedding party.  We had 2 BMs and 5 GMs.  We had the MOH and best man paired up and then two GMs escorted the other BM and then the last two GMs just walked out together.

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  • carly324carly324 member
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    Thank you!  I would never add someone just to add.. we are thinking of using his brother (a groomsman) to escort his mom down the aisle and also into the reception. 

    thanks again ladies! 
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  • dramamonkeydramamonkey member
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    We have a Best Man (Groom's Dad) and 2 other groomsmen, and I have a MOH and 3 other bridesmaids. 

    Grooms Dad will escort Grooms Mom down and up the aisle, so on the recessional, each groomsman will escort 2 bridesmaids. 
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  • mysticlmysticl member
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    We had a Maid of Honor, 2 Bridesmaids, 2 Flower Girls, a Best Man, and a Ring Bearer.  
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  • WildMageletWildMagelet member
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    Pick your nearest & dearest and have him do the same.  Sides do not have to be even or matching genders.
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  • wishin4ringwishin4ring member
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    Totally ok. :)
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  • irishrose54irishrose54 member
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    What do you do when a GM backs out? Now we have more ladies then men. Does it look odd to have two girls walk one guy down the aisle? Lol. I am not sure what to do!!! 
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  • manateehuggermanateehugger member
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    irishrose54 said:
    What do you do when a GM backs out? Now we have more ladies then men. Does it look odd to have two girls walk one guy down the aisle? Lol. I am not sure what to do!!! 
    It's not a big deal. Breathe. 

    Either have your GM escort a lady on each arm or just have everyone file in and out single-file. 
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  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    You're correct.  There is no requirement that sides be even.  One of the groomsmen can escort 2 bridesmaids.
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  • Rebl90Rebl90 member
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    I will have 5 ladies stand with me and my FI will have 7 men,he was a little apprehensive at first but I told him that it is better to have our choices reflect our true friendships instead of trying to make everything match up  :)
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  • CommitmentCatCommitmentCat member
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    I have had a lot of friendships come and go, and with that in mind I only want my sister to stand by me in my wedding. We are extremely close and I have always felt this way when picturing my wedding day. My fiance wants to have a best man and 2 groomsmen. I am happy for him to have them, they are all very important to him and I wouldn't want to have our wedding without them in it. However, he refuses to ask the guys he wants to be groomsmen to be his groomsmen unless I get two more bridesmaids. He feels the whole wedding will be unbalanced and it will ruin the pictures. I feel so pressured by this as I keep thinking of people I could ask but the truth is, I just don't want to. But, I really want him to have his groomsmen!
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  • carly324carly324 member
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    I also have 5 and FI has 7.  I decided I am totally great with it.  I do not want to look at photos in 10 years of someone who i am no longer friends with.  Last year, my very best friend got married and of course i was in her bridal party and in so many of the pictures.  Now, we DO NOT speak.  Had a little - well big- falling out this past April.  It's too bad for her because i am now in all of her pictures! I definitely do NOT want that!!!!!!  

    Thanks everyone for sharing!!! I am totally happy with decision! :)
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  • Dreamergirl8812Dreamergirl8812 member
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    CommitmentCat said:
    I have had a lot of friendships come and go, and with that in mind I only want my sister to stand by me in my wedding. We are extremely close and I have always felt this way when picturing my wedding day. My fiance wants to have a best man and 2 groomsmen. I am happy for him to have them, they are all very important to him and I wouldn't want to have our wedding without them in it. However, he refuses to ask the guys he wants to be groomsmen to be his groomsmen unless I get two more bridesmaids. He feels the whole wedding will be unbalanced and it will ruin the pictures. I feel so pressured by this as I keep thinking of people I could ask but the truth is, I just don't want to. But, I really want him to have his groomsmen!
    Your FI is being ridiculous. Relationships are more important than symmetry.



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  • CommitmentCatCommitmentCat member
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    @Dreamergirl8812 you hit the nail on the head! I think should the subject arise again, i might use those exact words. In the meantime I sat him down yesterday and told him that I don't like feeling pressurised to ask someone to appease him, but I will not outright refuse to have more as I have been doing. He just needs to ask his friends like he wants to and allow me to think and possibly change my mind without the pressure. And if I don't change my mind, be okay with that too. Potential groomzilla? Problem resolved. On the plus side, if i do have a change of heart there will be no hurt feelings for Bridesmaids being asked late because my sister was a lifetime discussion about when we get married  rather than "will you be my MOH?"
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