Rehearsal attire

awhiteelon · October 2013

Hi ladies, We are doing our rehearsal in the afternoon and then we will have a few hours between that and our dinner (and get together afterward). What should I wear the rehearsal? It's in a church. I would rather save my dress for the evening activities. What do you think?

melbelleup · October 2013

awhiteelon said:

Hi ladies, We are doing our rehearsal in the afternoon and then we will have a few hours between that and our dinner (and get together afterward). What should I wear the rehearsal? It's in a church. I would rather save my dress for the evening activities. What do you think?

I'm confused. Why do you need a separate outfit for dinner and rehearsal? I would wear the same outfit for both.

awhiteelon · October 2013

There are several hours between them, the dress is a bit dressy for the afternoon.

Maggie0829 · October 2013

Why not just have the RD (or RL - rehearsal lunch depending on the time of the rehearsal) right after the actual rehearsal?

What time is your rehearsal?

Not to be mean, but I compare that to a gap in a wedding. Asking people to attend a rehearsal and then have them come back later for dinner could be a huge inconvenience for those individuals.

southernbelle0915 · October 2013

Maggie0829 said:

Why not just have the RD (or RL - rehearsal lunch depending on the time of the rehearsal) right after the actual rehearsal?

What time is your rehearsal?

Not to be mean, but I compare that to a gap in a wedding. Asking people to attend a rehearsal and then have them come back later for dinner could be a huge inconvenience for those individuals.

This. I would just pick one outfit for both (a casual/semi-formal dress sounds find) and have your event be a lunch. It'll be cheaper for you and more convenient for all your guests. If you want, you guys could all hit a couple bars later, but your hosting would be taken care of.

awhiteelon · October 2013

Since we have several families with toddlers or younger that will be at the rehearsal, the families asked and we all agreed to give the kids (and parents) a break and a nap before the dinner. Everything is within a block or two of each other, including where everyone is staying.

southernbelle0915 · October 2013

awhiteelon said:

Since we have several families with toddlers or younger that will be at the rehearsal, the families asked and we all agreed to give the kids (and parents) a break and a nap before the dinner. Everything is within a block or two of each other, including where everyone is staying.

I don't want to stress you out,but I would not inconvenience everyone else because a few toddlers need to take a nap. Rehearsals don't usually take more than 30-45 minutes (you skip over all the content and just figure out logistics). Why can't the kid nap before it?

This sounds like the parents' problem. Not yours.

Maggie0829 · October 2013

southernbelle0915 said:

awhiteelon said:

Since we have several families with toddlers or younger that will be at the rehearsal, the families asked and we all agreed to give the kids (and parents) a break and a nap before the dinner. Everything is within a block or two of each other, including where everyone is staying.

I don't want to stress you out,but I would not inconvenience everyone else because a few toddlers need to take a nap. Rehearsals don't usually take more than 30-45 minutes (you skip over all the content and just figure out logistics). Why can't the kid nap before it?

This sounds like the parents' problem. Not yours.

This. Our rehearsal took 30 minutes, tops. If it goes on for any longer then an hour you are doing something wrong. People do not need to practice walking in a straight line 500 times.

I just think it is rude to inconvenience the rest of your guests because a few want their little one's to have a "break". If they really think Little Johnny can't not have a nap them they can certainly skip the meal.

doeydo · October 2013

What o you mean your dress is too fancy for an afternoon? Do you have a picture of it? Changing your outfit seems a little silly to me.

JMalettas · October 2013

I would also be slightly annoyed if we had to wait a few hours between the 2 events, 'just' because some people wanted their kids to nap. To me, if your kids need to nap, find a babysitter & let them nap at home, or have them nap before hand. I couldn't imagine asking this of the bride/groom, if I had kids, that I felt, should nap. I would figure out a PlanB to work around THEIR event. Just seems odd & inconvenient.

Nevertheless, I would wear the same dress to both events. I wore a 'more-on-the-casual' side of a semi-formal dress to our rehearsal & rehearsal dinner. Wearing a nice dress flat to the rehearsal, and maybe heels at the dinner, would make the difference too in how formal the look is. A much simpler approach to looking more formal for the dinner.

*J

awhiteelon · October 2013

Thanks to everyone. That's just what our whole group decided would work best, whether or not they had kids. It's what everyone wanted, including my fiancé and I.

GetThePointe77 · October 2013

The OP had a question about her dress, not about the timing of her day. Clearly the wedding party has agreed this is what is better for them, so I really think everyone should just answer her original question and not pass judgement on her plans. I understand the gap for the wedding is a big deal, but a lot of rehearsal dinners are much smaller so she is probably not inconveniencing people as much as you think.

southernbelle0915 · October 2013

GetThePointe77 said:

The OP had a question about her dress, not about the timing of her day. Clearly the wedding party has agreed this is what is better for them, so I really think everyone should just answer her original question and not pass judgement on her plans. I understand the gap for the wedding is a big deal, but a lot of rehearsal dinners are much smaller so she is probably not inconveniencing people as much as you think.

OMG. This makes so much sense to me now. From now on, if someone posts something where I find something disconcerting, I will ONLY answer the question that was asked. /*sarcasm Like the scenario below:

Question:

I'm getting married next Saturday at 7am in a beautiful ball gown, but haven't told any of my family or friends that are invited, but when we do, we're for sure telling them to come dressed to the nine in lilac (our colors are white and lilac). We're having a cash bar and decided not to serve any food due to budget, but my family/friends will totally understand. The reception is at 5pm and we expect everyone to stay until 2am. If they leave before that, we're going to send them a bill for their share of the venue cost. Anyway, my question is: should I change my outfit for the reception?

@GetToThePointe77's Perferred Answer:

Since you only asked about changing your outfit, I think you should rock your dress the whole day! It's YOUR day, so do whatever you want! Have SO much fun.

See how that doesn't help anyone? Lurkers especially. People who post here can post whatever they want and if they see something that might help the OP, they're going to provide suggestions. If you don't like it, ignore it. Your post calling people out didn't answer the OP's question at all. So what's your suggestion on her outfit? Hm?

ameraznhuney · October 2013

I still think changing outfits in this situation is silly, regardless of the gap/timing of events. Unless you're hosting your RD in a 5-star restaurant, whatever semi-formal/casual attire you wear to your rehearsal should be good enough.

pengwinn · October 2013

Holy overreaction Batman!
@GetToThePointe78 had a good point I don't think it's so outrageous to ask for an answer to the question that was asked!
Though I think it's understood people will post their opinions anyway.

As for the outfit change, I say just wear the same dress.

atlastmrsg · October 2013

GetThePointe77 said:

The OP had a question about her dress, not about the timing of her day. Clearly the wedding party has agreed this is what is better for them, so I really think everyone should just answer her original question and not pass judgement on her plans. I understand the gap for the wedding is a big deal, but a lot of rehearsal dinners are much smaller so she is probably not inconveniencing people as much as you think.

These boards would be a lot nicer place if more people were like GetThePointe77. The OP isn't going to change her plans at this point, she just wants help deciding what to wear. Kudos, GetThePointe77.

msdidonato · October 2013

Maybe find something more comfortable to wear for the church rehearsal. Since there is time in between it will allow you to change into your dress for the rehearsal dinner.

Maybe a simpler dress you would wear to church or a business causal outfit? My rehearsal is at 9 am the morning before (due to restraints at the wedding venue) and we will be having the rehearsal dinner that evening. We planned other events for our guest to do in between the times. I plan on wearing a sundress (it is in May) for the rehearsal and than a nicer dress for dinner!!!

Good Luck and congrats

WedReMix13 · October 2013

Id wear the dress all day. You paid for it, why not wear it as long as possible!

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