Apparently, it's porn day on Prudie.

mrsconn23 · October 2013

Who knew she was so dirty?

Dear Prudence,
I'm a 25-year-old woman who has a higher than average sex drive. I masturbate a lot and enjoy watching pornography. Several months ago I started posting naked pictures and videos of myself masturbating (none showing my face or any identifying features) on a porn site where people upload amateur videos. It's been a big turn on for me to post them and to read messages from the men who've watched me. However, I have just started seeing a guy I really like. I don't know if this is something I should tell him about now or ever. It could be fun to make videos together if we both were into it, but it is not a requirement. It’s far more important to me to build a fulfilling sex life with my partner. Should I take all my videos down and put it in the past? Should I tell him about it, and if so, when and how?

—Amateur Erotic Filmmaker

AuntFlo · October 2013

Tell him about it? No, no, no. You keep that shit to yourself, mrs.conn.

VarunaTT · October 2013

See and this is why all the prudishness about sex in America makes things so complicated.

B/c really, this is something he should know she's into. Maybe not give out the website or something, but she enjoys this aspect of her sexual life and should be able to continue to with a partner OR consenting to stop b/c of a partner, rather than being shamed about it. It shouldn't have to be a dirty little secret that she has to figure out when to share.

I probably wouldn't share until more than a year into the relationship and probably not until discussion of marriage came up. Hopefully they're sleeping together and maybe there's a way to work it into some sort of conversation about sex.

AuntFlo · October 2013

You know, you're right Varuna. I don't think she should give him specifics (so he can't use it against her - like the revenge porn letter), but she should tell him that this is what she's into.