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Ideas for uneven bridal party?
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Unfortunately, one of the groomsmen is having a lot of personal issues, and therefore couldn't commit to the entire day at our wedding (he'll be showing up late during reception).
Initially, I thought about just having one groomsman double up on walking 2 bridesmaids down the aisle, but one of the bridesmaids doesn't quite like it. She doesn't feel comfy with it for some reason.
Is there any other ideas on how to do this?
I thought about having the groom walk her before he stands with the officiant, but I'm not so sure about that because the officiant wanted to take the groom with him and say something before the bridal party came in.
I mean, as a last resort I'm sure she'll be ok with it, but if there's another alternative, I'd like some suggestions.
Thank you!!
Unfortunately, one of the groomsmen is having a lot of personal issues, and therefore couldn't commit to the entire day at our wedding (he'll be showing up late during reception).
Initially, I thought about just having one groomsman double up on walking 2 bridesmaids down the aisle, but one of the bridesmaids doesn't quite like it. She doesn't feel comfy with it for some reason.
Is there any other ideas on how to do this?
I thought about having the groom walk her before he stands with the officiant, but I'm not so sure about that because the officiant wanted to take the groom with him and say something before the bridal party came in.
I mean, as a last resort I'm sure she'll be ok with it, but if there's another alternative, I'd like some suggestions.
Thank you!!
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Re: Ideas for uneven bridal party?
You could also have the GM already at the altar, and have your BM walk down individually.
I would avoid having the groom escort anyone...that seems really odd to me.
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I have 4 bridesmaids, assuming the MOH and BM walk together, that leaves 2 GM and 3 BM.
I can either have the groomsmen already there, and the BM walk alone, or just find if any 2 girls are ok with sharing their man haha.
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[QUOTE]I know this may sound catty, but I wouldn't give them a choice. I was in a wedding last year where there were two girls and one guy, we flanked him on the exit and it was fine. I've never even been to a wedding that had the girls escorted on the entrance, only the exit. And I've been to ALOT of weddings. In no circumstances should the groom escort anyone other than his mother and yourself. IMO.
Posted by lisarene77[/QUOTE]
I think this is actually the right thing to do. Just let two of your BM's that one GM will escort them both down at the same time.
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I have a similar situation and decided that since RB is only going to be about 1 1/2 years old, that she will walk with him down the aisle.
[QUOTE]<strong>I am going to have the FI and GM at the alter. Only the BMs will walk down the isle. They will all walk down individually. I have seen this before and it works nicely. When exiting, I think that 1 GM and 2 BMs should walk out together. </strong>Good luck. They should respect what you want and just do it. This is not a unreasonable request if you decide to have 2 BM with i guy.
Posted by hschieferstein[/QUOTE]
<div>I agree with this. </div>
[QUOTE]I am going to have the FI and GM at the altar. Only the BMs will walk down the aisle. They will all walk down individually. I have seen this before and it works nicely. When exiting, I think that 1 GM and 2 BMs should walk out together. Good luck. They should respect what you want and just do it. This is not a unreasonable request if you decide to have 2 BM with i guy.
Posted by hschieferstein[/QUOTE]
I totally agree. This is what we did as well, and the only way I've ever seen the processional. What is her issue with one GM being paired with two BMs? If it's only that she thinks it will look strange, well it's not her wedding and it isn't up to her.
Our WP isn't even. There will either be one or two more BMs than GM (depending on whether one is back from the Peace Corps in time - apparently it's hard to contact people when they're in a tiny village with no cell or landline service). I think I'm just going to have the WP alternate as PP mentioned, or have all the girls exit then all the guys, then bride and groom.
The only place I think you'd have to worry about "doubling up" is if you announce your wedding party at the reception. We're skipping this. But, I've seen two BMs with one GM, or a bridesmaid escorting a grandfather, etc.
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Have the WP leave as a group - in any way they naturally come together. With such a small number, your photographer will be able to grab a candid shot of them all together, smiling at your joy and excitement.