Ideas for uneven bridal party?

reason00 · April 2011

Hello!

Unfortunately, one of the groomsmen is having a lot of personal issues, and therefore couldn't commit to the entire day at our wedding (he'll be showing up late during reception).

Initially, I thought about just having one groomsman double up on walking 2 bridesmaids down the aisle, but one of the bridesmaids doesn't quite like it. She doesn't feel comfy with it for some reason.

Is there any other ideas on how to do this?

I thought about having the groom walk her before he stands with the officiant, but I'm not so sure about that because the officiant wanted to take the groom with him and say something before the bridal party came in.

I mean, as a last resort I'm sure she'll be ok with it, but if there's another alternative, I'd like some suggestions.

Thank you!!

twilight.rose · April 2011

It's fine to have one GM escort two BM. Nobody will even think about it.

You could also have the GM already at the altar, and have your BM walk down individually.

I would avoid having the groom escort anyone...that seems really odd to me.

aerinpegadrak · April 2011

Do you only have the one guy and two girls? If not, the one who doesn't like it could just walk with one guy.

reason00 · April 2011

You're both right...

I have 4 bridesmaids, assuming the MOH and BM walk together, that leaves 2 GM and 3 BM.

I can either have the groomsmen already there, and the BM walk alone, or just find if any 2 girls are ok with sharing their man haha.

lisarene77 · April 2011

I know this may sound catty, but I wouldn't give them a choice. I was in a wedding last year where there were two girls and one guy, we flanked him on the exit and it was fine. I've never even been to a wedding that had the girls escorted on the entrance, only the exit. And I've been to ALOT of weddings. In no circumstances should the groom escort anyone other than his mother and yourself. IMO.

hschieferstein · April 2011

I am going to have the FI and GM at the alter. Only the BMs will walk down the isle. They will all walk down individually. I have seen this before and it works nicely. When exiting, I think that 1 GM and 2 BMs should walk out together. Good luck. They should respect what you want and just do it. This is not a unreasonable request if you decide to have 2 BM with i guy.

Audrey&Austin · April 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_ideas-uneven-bridal-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:10Discussion:7b17b954-51ba-420e-bd8b-60ab7da7bc37Post:e3b298ab-e79a-456b-b15e-81e0d10350e3">Re: Ideas for uneven bridal party?</a>:
[QUOTE]I know this may sound catty, but I wouldn't give them a choice. I was in a wedding last year where there were two girls and one guy, we flanked him on the exit and it was fine. I've never even been to a wedding that had the girls escorted on the entrance, only the exit. And I've been to ALOT of weddings. In no circumstances should the groom escort anyone other than his mother and yourself. IMO.
Posted by lisarene77[/QUOTE]
I think this is actually the right thing to do. Just let two of your BM's that one GM will escort them both down at the same time.

holi108 · April 2011

I have a similar situation and decided that since RB is only going to be about 1 1/2 years old, that she will walk with him down the aisle.

artbyallie · April 2011

Alternatively, you could have everyone walk alone and just do a weave, i.e. girl, boy, etc.

mary9449 · April 2011

You could just have them all walk down individually or pair the GM with two BM that feel ok with the idea. Either one of those wouldn't seem strange.

mandi921vh · April 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_ideas-uneven-bridal-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:10Discussion:7b17b954-51ba-420e-bd8b-60ab7da7bc37Post:bc7d727d-35bd-437f-b8d0-1182e7b458e2">Re: Ideas for uneven bridal party?</a>:
[QUOTE]<strong>I am going to have the FI and GM at the alter. Only the BMs will walk down the isle. They will all walk down individually. I have seen this before and it works nicely. When exiting, I think that 1 GM and 2 BMs should walk out together. </strong>Good luck. They should respect what you want and just do it. This is not a unreasonable request if you decide to have 2 BM with i guy.
Posted by hschieferstein[/QUOTE]

<div>I agree with this. </div>

brandi0507 · April 2011

I am having all the bridesmaids and groomsmen walk out in pairs then my MOH is walking out by herself. We have an uneven party due to someone backing out last min. So I thought this would be nice and make her feel more important. She agreed that she would love to walk by herself.

kristinanddan · April 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_ideas-uneven-bridal-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:10Discussion:7b17b954-51ba-420e-bd8b-60ab7da7bc37Post:bc7d727d-35bd-437f-b8d0-1182e7b458e2">Re: Ideas for uneven bridal party?</a>:
[QUOTE]I am going to have the FI and GM at the altar. Only the BMs will walk down the aisle. They will all walk down individually. I have seen this before and it works nicely. When exiting, I think that 1 GM and 2 BMs should walk out together. Good luck. They should respect what you want and just do it. This is not a unreasonable request if you decide to have 2 BM with i guy.
Posted by hschieferstein[/QUOTE]

I totally agree. This is what we did as well, and the only way I've ever seen the processional. What is her issue with one GM being paired with two BMs? If it's only that she thinks it will look strange, well it's not her wedding and it isn't up to her.

kgorman307 · April 2011

I have never seen BMs escorted during the processional. Typically, the groomsmen are all the front, and then enter from the side instead of down the aisle. I mean, you can do whatever you want for the processional, if you want the guys to walk the BMs down the aisle that's cool.

Our WP isn't even. There will either be one or two more BMs than GM (depending on whether one is back from the Peace Corps in time - apparently it's hard to contact people when they're in a tiny village with no cell or landline service). I think I'm just going to have the WP alternate as PP mentioned, or have all the girls exit then all the guys, then bride and groom.

The only place I think you'd have to worry about "doubling up" is if you announce your wedding party at the reception. We're skipping this. But, I've seen two BMs with one GM, or a bridesmaid escorting a grandfather, etc.

princesshayley · April 2011

I'd have to agree, the groom should be at the alter supported by his best man and groomsmen. If your groom has to wait till you walk down the aisle to see you in your dress, so should his groomsmen. :-)

suedoyle · April 2011

Frankly, nobody watches the rest of the party leave the front of the church. All eyes will be on the happy couple, and then attention is turned to gathering up purses, cameras and programs, and greeting other friends.

Have the WP leave as a group - in any way they naturally come together. With such a small number, your photographer will be able to grab a candid shot of them all together, smiling at your joy and excitement.

pucketak · April 2011

Our bridal party is uneven in every sense: 4 on my side, one of which is a man, and 3 on his, two of which are women. So we're having everyone walk down the aisle individually - no escorts. Since my side has more we're alternating, starting with mine and ending with mine. No sweat unless you're really bound by tradition.

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